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arleneh Post time: 2014-9-7 00:00
it takes time
and i 've no idea about that
It's something that you need to talk to a close friend (female) about and get all of the anger, betrayal and emotions out of your system. This alone won't remove the pain but at least it is "out" and not being pent up. There is nothing worse for a person that bottling up painful events for years and years, I know from my own personal experience and those of many others.
Next thing, if you were having sex with him, please go and get a full STD check (blood test) as soon as possible. There are quite a few very nasty diseases that can be passed such as syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, Herpes, HIV and many others. Several strains of syphilis and at least two of gonorrhea are drug resistant or incurable. Even kissing him may have left you with a case of Herpes Simplex if he had it. So STD test please!
The next part takes longer and how long it takes depends on how much you dwell on what happened and how much you allow his memory to control your mind. There's no point in being mad at him, that only prolongs the pain, instead forgive him and realise that he missed out on a great and fine woman, so it's his loss not yours. You gain from his departure, you don't get lied to, manipulated or otherwise have your life made a misery.
Hold your head up arlenh, you're a good person and are too good for this miserable bum of an ex-boyfriend.