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Pornography- A clear and present menace.

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I've been thinking about writing on the subject of pornography and its negative effects on human brain and body, as well as how it affects the personality and thoughts of a porn- addict, but I was kind of shy because this subject is not as openly talked about in general. But today, I managed to gather the confidence to share my input which basically comes from my personal experience and of course I did some research on the topic by meeting people and asking them certain questions and reading, in order to establish an idea where to begin with.


 Pornography is destructive. It’s that simple.


 For years, we have seen sexual images integrated into our everyday media—from advertisements, to TV shows, movies and even books. Seeing porn has come to be seen as just a “normal” thing that all consumers of media will use. The consequences of pornography can be seen in many different areas of life, but here are some of the relational consequences of being addicted to porn. A healthy, romantic relationship is cultivated through physical, intellectual and emotional connections. If one is removed, the entire relationship will crumble. Sex is meant to be enjoyed by a couple who love and respect one another. A healthy, romantic relationship is cultivated through physical, intellectual and emotional connections. If one is removed, the entire relationship will crumble


 Men are more than twice as likely as women to use pornography (73 percent vs. 32 percent, according to one study), but even if they’re not the majority using it, women are still affected by porn use. Some women are put in a position where they feel they must compete for sexual and emotional attention with the women in the porn their boyfriends or husbands watch. The “fantasy women” in pornography are portrayed as unrealistically sexually attractive, often because of plastic surgery, stage makeup and digital editing. It is impossible for a real woman to match up to these fantasy women, which can make her feel inferior and insecure.


 It's also a fact that porn depicts unrealistic sexual scenarios. In the real world, sex is a way for husbands and wives to show their love and to serve one another—it’s not always exciting. Further, watching porn decreases sexual pleasure. Some porn addicts even desire porn more than they want to be intimate with a real partner. Once intimacy in a marriage is cheapened, the addicted partner can begin looking for other ways to satisfy their sexual fantasy. This could include online chat rooms or even having an affair. The addict quickly builds up a tolerance for what they are watching until it begins to no longer arouse them in the same way. They could then move on to hardcore pornography or even begin to try out what they have watched online with other sexual partners.


 Watching pornography is the easiest way to break trust, because it violates the intimacy of love and relationship. There is an extreme level of hurt  caused by finding out your partner is addicted to pornography because it can feel as though your partner has been cheating on you by watching those films.


 Boys and men don’t realize the power they’re giving away to pornography. They don’t understand the power it has to shape who they are, their sexuality, and their sexual identity. In this culture, we think of pornography as a joke or something to laugh about. We don’t take it seriously as a source of information that has the ability and power to impact on the way we think about the world. Most boys and men go to pornography for an ejaculation; they come away with a lot more. I don’t think they’re quite aware of it.


Pornography, like all images, tells stories about the world. It tells stories about women, men, sexuality, and intimacy. In pornography, intimacy is something to be avoided.


The internet has made it more accessible, affordable, and anonymous. You’re seeing a massive rise in use, and the users are getting younger and younger. Children who are 11½ years old are now looking at pornography because it comes straight into the home.  Today, it is unlimited.


 I’ve come to learn through reading that a growing number of women now find themselves in relationships who are suffering from sexual dysfunction, which affects the women as much as the men. After all if your man is unable to perform, make love or reach orgasm, your sexual pleasure is likely to be diminished. This inability to perform sex is more related to the fact that men in general are both visually stimulated and turned-on by new stimuli. Essentially, a man who spends most of his sexual life fantasizing and Self-pleasuring to porn is, over time, likely to find real sex encounter less stimulating. So what we are now seeing on a relatively long scale is an emotional disconnect with the real world sex partners that is manifesting not only physically as sexual dysfunction, but emotionally as a lack of interest in real-world intimate connections.


In a nutshell, It greatly hinders you growth and success in life by eating away your precious mental energy, time and The Real joy that you deserve. Don’t let it happen to you.

Peace!


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Reply Report BlondeAmber 2016-9-30 14:30
Sadly in China, porn is the main source of sex education for men.
Reply Report Riz 2016-9-30 17:31
Sad but true. Hope somebody changes with my this message BlondeAmber. Thanks for the comment.
Reply Report seanboyce88 2016-10-4 13:13
I agree with most of what you say but then at the same time i don't believe erotica (also classed as porn) is quite as damaging as say some hardcore porn out there and in fact can be very healthy for a relationship.

The problem with pornography is that it comes in so many categories, and to say it is all bad I think would be a shame, disregarding what in some cases could be called art. We shouldn't generalise as such. Abusive, hardcore pornography, pornography that does not promote healthy body images, or healthy relationships I agree can be detrimental to a relationship and ones own mentality but at the same time, exploring porn in some of its forms can help someone understand themselves more.

The main issue again though, echoing blondeambers comment is the education. If people are not educated that this is not how people have sex, thats when it becomes a problem. Having had some very...personal and private experiences here, I can tell you that it's definitely not just the boys brainwashed by this. I have been with one or two really crazy girls here who believe that sex is like a pornographic flick and all sense of intimacy was entirely non existent. When confronted with this, they told me that they were educated by their ex bf's or pornography because in China no one talks about it.

The problems always start when people stop talking about sex. We all have sex, it's how we got here in the first place and can be argued is the whole reason we are here. Acting like it's something disgusting and to be ashamed of is just stupid.
Reply Report Riz 2016-10-4 18:49
I agree with your point. Art or erotica is not that kind of porn which I am discussing.
Reply Report vf84tcat 2017-2-10 10:01
Porn may be harmful to some but for many, it's very healthy.

Stress is a constant of the human condition. It causes the body to secret hormones that are detrimental to the physical and mental health of human beings.

Sex is an activity that alleviates stress. When climax is achieved, the body releases a plethora of both physically-enhancing and mood-elevating hormones, defeating stress.

For males, available sex partners are often hard to find. Though not as fulfilling as the human touch of another, porn provides an alternative stress-mitigator to sex.

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  • Pornography- A clear and present menace. 2017-2-10 10:01

    Porn may be harmful to some but for many, it's very healthy.

    Stress is a constant of the human condition. It causes the body to secret hormones that are detrimental to the physical and mental health of human beings.

    Sex is an activity that alleviates stress. When climax is achieved, the body releases a plethora of both physically-enhancing and mood-elevating hormones, defeating stress.

    For males, available sex partners are often hard to find. Though not as fulfilling as the human touch of another, porn provides an alternative stress-mitigator to sex.

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