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The rich internal world of a toddler

Popularity 8Viewed 6040 times 2016-1-21 23:19 |Personal category:Growing with my daughter|System category:Life| internal world, toddler

One can never imagine how big and complicated the internal world of a three-year-old child is.


Yesterday afternoon I went to pick up Nicole from her daycare center. These days I have tried to be there a little bit earlier than before because of the jet lag after a long flight in this new year season. Her teacher, Sandra, asked her help with the tidying up first. Then Nicole went for toilet and hands washing. After all these being done, Sandra took her to me hand by hand, and we had a short talk about her daily routines. Then we waved bye-bye to Sandra and other teachers, and to her small friends. On the way back home, she looked joyful in the beginning, telling me about the daytime activities she took part in, while later when the peace and quietness came back to her, she looked tired.


After we getting off the bus, there was still another 15 mins of climbing up along a hill to our apartment. The time when she stepped off the bus, she asked me where her daddy was. I told her that daddy was still working, and would only be back around six or seven o’clock. She accepted the fact, and sighed with ‘Okay…’, somewhat depressively.

On the way back, she was not as cooperative as like usual. Sometimes she refused to walk, but to stand in the middle of the road, for quite a while, no matter how many times I asked her to move forward. Sometimes she stepped aside to the grassland where was covered by thick snow, and she tried to kick off the snow until the bare grasses were visible. And she kept silent all the way. I knew that she was tired and for some reason unhappy, thus I tried my best to be patient and to motivate her by playing the game of ‘Hare and the Tortoise’. Slowly and slowly, we were reaching our destination. Finally we arrived. But she bursted into tears and started to threw tantrums all of a sudden outside the door. I opened the door and asked her to come inside but she refused. I was upset, but still tried to persuade her, ‘See, Nicole, we are home now. Why crying like that? Come in and we can have a rest. Would you like milk or juice? Or you can play with your toys.’ But she shouted back with ‘Nein! Nein! Nein!’ Then I told her, ‘Ok. If you don’t want to come with me, I will go myself.’ Then I walked in and pretended to close the door. She realized that I was seriously going to do it and rushed inside, crying loudly. I was thinking about I need to do something to comfort her, because she was so sad and tired. So I lowered down to her and hold her with my arms, asked her, ‘why are you crying so sadly? Tired? We are home now. Want a cuddle?’ The last sentence triggered an even louder cry and appeal, ’Mummy can’t carry me! Mummy backache! Daddy carry me! Daddy…!’

My tears came out suddenly when I heard the words. Such a sweet and considerate girl she is. One month ago I had a bad movement when carrying her up and twisted my waist when we were going to school. I remember that I couldn’t move at all when the accident happened and this definitely scared her. After that I suffered from long-term lower back pain till now and couldn’t carry her although I’m getting better. It is clear that she knows everything. I was deeply touched. I am proud also, for I think that to possess a rich and beautiful internal world is to have a most powerful resource for dealing with life.

No wonder why she asked me where her daddy was. No wonder why she kept silent all the way long but finally lost control when arriving at home. Dear parents, do you still think that our children know nothing or few about our world?


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Reply Report SEARU 2016-1-22 07:56
Kid's eyes are sharp camera and her ears are sensitive recorder and her brain is more smarter than the adults‘. In Chinese,we often say ’人小鬼大' which means little child maybe as clever as spirit (ghost?)!
Reply Report SEARU 2016-1-22 08:07
The story tastes as a cup of coffee from which as if I could see the rising cooking smoke with sweet memory of my own experience of taking care of son.
Reply Report Dr.Bill.Shen 2016-1-22 10:52
good to see her growing sense and sensitivity :).  i am not surprised since she has such a discerning mother.
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2016-1-22 13:22
SEARU: The story tastes as a cup of coffee from which as if I could see the rising cooking smoke with sweet memory of my own experience of taking care of son ...
It's always great to hear from old friends. I'm so happy that we can still keep in touch in this platform. So thankful. Yes I've been making records as a diary for her, and when she grows up to a teenager I'd like to make this series as a gift. They are growing up, and we are getting older, but the experiences are beautiful.
All the best and happy new year!
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2016-1-22 13:23
Dr.Bill.Shen: good to see her growing sense and sensitivity :).  i am not surprised since she has such a discerning mother.
Really a long time no see! Hope everything is fine with you! And thanks a lot for your eyes on us:) Happy New Year to you!
Reply Report Dr.Bill.Shen 2016-1-22 15:40
Judy_Zhu: Really a long time no see! Hope everything is fine with you! And thanks a lot for your eyes on us:) Happy New Year to you!
    happy new year to you and your lovely family !
Reply Report SEARU 2016-1-22 18:49
Judy_Zhu: It's always great to hear from old friends. I'm so happy that we can still keep in touch in this platform. So thankful. Yes I've been making records a ...
Then you may publish a book with the records that would also be a great gift for our education!
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2016-1-22 22:52
SEARU: Then you may publish a book with the records that would also be a great gift for our education!
Too ambitious for me:)
Reply Report ysyaileen 2016-1-23 23:02
so glad to see your little angel' s growth. she is so considerated. the inner world of the kids is vast. we must spend time exploring.
best wishes to you
Reply Report springcastle 2016-1-24 11:22
great! My little boy can take up the job of polishing my boots with a piece of wet tissue and then bring the pair, urging me to put them on and go outside with him. Kids are lovely and intelligent. They know more than we imganine them to be.
Reply Report SEARU 2016-1-25 08:27
springcastle: great! My little boy can take up the job of polishing my boots with a piece of wet tissue and then bring the pair, urging me to put them on and go out ...
Through the kids‘ active behaviors it seems that we could see the shadow of our growth that is one of the reasons why adults love to play with children!
Reply Report AndrewCraven 2016-1-25 13:52
My two and a half year daughter likes eating, every food can't escape from her eyes. It seems she never get full of her stomach. It was interesting when I saw her searching for food. One night my wife and I were in bed, she asked to go and have some water. After two minutes I called her named, but she didn't answer. With my curiosity I got up and went to sitting room,to my surprise she was drinking a bag of milk in my chair which I had left half  on the table.
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2016-1-27 16:13
ysyaileen: so glad to see your little angel' s growth. she is so considerated. the inner world of the kids is vast. we must spend time exploring.
best wishes to ...
Thanks a lot!  Wish you happiness and health in the new year!
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2016-1-27 16:16
springcastle: great! My little boy can take up the job of polishing my boots with a piece of wet tissue and then bring the pair, urging me to put them on and go out ...
So smart he is! Yes they know far more than what we expected:) It's so happy to stay with them and dig out what they are thinking about.
Happy new year!
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2016-1-27 16:28
AndrewCraven: My two and a half year daughter likes eating, every food can't escape from her eyes. It seems she never get full of her stomach. It was interesting wh ...
Dear Andrew, she is really adorable! So she didn't pour the milk, and could even handle without a straw? After having my child I understand why there are people choosing to be a daycare teacher or a kindgarten teacher. Some of them really love to stay with children and enjoy the fun to be with them:), for every child is a genius who will show you different amazing things you can never imagine. Sometimes I'm thinking about to get a career training in this field and to be a teacher among them.
All the best to your family!
Reply Report Funny-boy 2016-6-12 17:04
Thanks the kids bring the love and happy to us.
Reply Report Funny-boy 2016-6-12 17:08
Nice article is worthy to be saved.

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