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If you are over 20-year-old, then, I hope this blog can give you some fresh thought.

 

As we know, education can be divided into three parts that is the education of school, family and society. It is true that parent’s living style, mode of thinking, attitude towards life can have strong influence on their children’s growing, just as an old Chinese saying said: like father, like son. If somebody’s father and mother usually fight at home, then may be their kid’s character will become easy-impulse. So when People say the only child has bad temper, those children usually blame it to their family education.

 

Today I am not going to criticize children’s bad temper or some parent’s imperfect family education. I just want to share a new thought I’ve gotten in my blanking period. I constantly feel that there is no absolute right or wrong in most of the things happened in our life. Sometimes we have argument just because we are at different standpoints. As a child who has been educated for many years, we should have the ability of being tolerant.

 

Most of us are the only child in our family. Actually, it’s also the first time for them to be a father and a mother. They have no relevant personal experience.

 

We cannot deny that we are not god who can perform excellent in any areas. So all of us will inevitably make a few mistakes or not do very well at first. Here, why do I say at first? Because I reckon that family education usually strongly affects children at their young age. At that time, our mode of thinking and character are growing and the cognition is not stereotyped. We are just like a clay figure that any external force can change our shape. Simultaneously, our beloved parent just step into their totally new area. They also feel difficult, and confused for how to be a good father and mother which really can be a lifelong lesson.

 

Everybody is a vivid individual who has unique character include our father and mother. Maybe they cannot give us the same condition as other rich parent. But we should know they have already given their best to us. When we are controlled by the monster of bad emotion, please close your mouth and find a space to stay alone. Under bad emotion, we usually say some terrible words that can directly hurt others.

 

We are growing up, but they are getting old. Our whole life can be divided into three stages. The first two are kid and adult, then, what the third stage? It’s not the aged, but the kid again. Can’t you feel that our parents are also a little capricious when they are old? In China, the phrase lao wan tong (may be it can be translated as old child) can mirror this phenomenon.

 

My friends, we have grown up. It is our turn to look after our parent. We should be stronger to let our parents stopping worrying about us. All I wish is they can lead a happy and healthy life in their rest life. Father And Mother, I Love You. We can see a word by combining the underline sentence’s every initial alphabet together, which is family.

 

 

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Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-5-15 14:07
A nice post! . Last year there was a kind of advert on TV where the capital letters of Family were animated into characters of the various family life stages . Quite clever. I think that your blanking period is really your thinking period!
Reply Report 小小徐 2014-5-15 21:10
ColinSpeakman: A nice post! . Last year there was a kind of advert on TV where the capital letters of Family were animated into characters of the various family life ...
sometimes i have bad temper, i know i don't like it, but i just can't control myself at that time. when i was young, my father and mother almost quarrel everyday. and  fighting  also happened sometimes.  i used to struggle in a bad emtion. i used to attribute my bad temper to my parent. sometimes, it makes all of us unhappy. now, i've leant to be a more tolerant person. i should never drown myself in those bad memory. but look forward for our future. and try my best to make it better than before. i think when i standing on the ground on a sunny day, if i keeping looking back, I will miss the beautiful scenery and only see my black shadow.
Reply Report 小小徐 2014-5-15 21:21
ColinSpeakman: A nice post! . Last year there was a kind of advert on TV where the capital letters of Family were animated into characters of the various family life ...
people may have some flaws. The most important thing for them is that they have realized the flaws and decide to repair them. i believe i can do it and be a better girl.    i have confidence.
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-5-15 23:29
小小徐: people may have some flaws. The most important thing for them is that they have realized the flaws and decide to repair them. i believe i can do it an ...
That is definitely the most important thing, that you recognize where behavior modification is needed!   keep posting!
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-5-15 23:37
小小徐: sometimes i have bad temper, i know i don't like it, but i just can't control myself at that time. when i was young, my father and mother almost quarr ...
Growing up seeing arguing parents is not a good experience. It is great that you recognize that there is a better way. You are a sensible girl and you have good spirit for a happy life!   uh
Reply Report 小小徐 2014-5-16 21:45
    the picture can't come out. i don't know why...
Reply Report jiewei798 2014-5-17 08:43
It is true that parents are new to parenting. That is why I like how Chinese culture heavily involves the grandparents in raising grandchildren because they have experience. However, you are also right that young people should try to be strong and not place so much burden on their elderly parents.
Reply Report 小小徐 2014-5-17 21:05
jiewei798: It is true that parents are new to parenting. That is why I like how Chinese culture heavily involves the grandparents in raising grandchildren becaus ...
thank you for your comment.    it's our turn to protect them. maybe i can not do it in one day. but i will try my best to do it day by day.

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