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What if I take my boy friend to home in Spring Festival?

Popularity 12Viewed 5229 times 2016-2-5 21:20 |Personal category:home|System category:Life| friend


After I came back to home, the elders always enquire me that do I have a boy friend,and threatenme not to have a foreign boy friend with many unpleasant examples they heard of, as such. I do have a foreign boy friend, but I said no whenever and whoever (except my mom) asks me, even my friends who grew up with me. I feel sorry I have lied to them, but I am afraid more of the coming ramblings among the small village, which would definitely hurt my families.

The following is the imagination scene if I took him with me to home.

My hometown is a very small village located in the south of Shanxi province. Most of the people in my village are very simple and unsophisticated. All my families, except some of my young nephews and nieces who have been to big cities for further education, have never in their life seen a real foreigner. They know foreigners do exist, but only on TV. For them, foreigners are no different from aliens (no offense). They would be shocked and would be angry first with me for taking a foreigner, instead of a Chinese from any places, because they dont want me to go to further places. I am sorry for thatThen everybody in my village (that is the advantage of a small village) might know that a foreigner came to our village as my boy friend. This would be a quite sensation here. 

Anyway, the excitement would wane finally, but stare and talk keep. Everybody would pry into my stories with him all the time and all the place.My families would probably have much difficulty in communicating with him. He now is trying to improve his Chinese. Parents would consider what he could eat in home, because he is a Muslim, and we are not. Some people who want to help their children with their English would also try to encourage them to talk with him, but most of them would be too shy too talk in English, although they desperately want to. At table, I guess there would be some relatives trying to make him drink more Chinese liquor. 

Many of my relatives would try to talk me out of this relationship and persuade me to go to blind dates secretly. I would keep quiet and listen to them about the unfortunate things that might happen to me according to them. This would keep longer even after I went back to Shanghai. I know they would be kind and thinking for me, but right now, the bad things they would predict cannot be the reasons for me to break up with my boy friend. 

And by the way, my boy friend is tall, strong and brown in color, which might also remind people of the fearsome terrorists occurring from time to time on TV. 

I have not exaggerated the story, but I still hope they can take it slowly and smoothly, and my grandparents would accept him like my mom. 

Any comment or suggestion is very welcome here!

 

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Reply Report Echo/hanhan 2016-2-11 13:06
haha, just take it easy, do not worry it too much, Good luck
Reply Report futsanglung 2016-2-11 13:13
cecilia颖: that makes sense. there is an old saying in China,"A thing is valued if it is rare." my friend used to tell me that 3 Russian boys went to a ...
It also has something to do with the way many foreigners act in China, they all too often look down on the locals, I treat everyone the same no matter what their race, creed, colour or status.

In the out of the way places where there have been few outsiders the locals have not experienced this so tend to be more open.
Reply Report dusty1 2016-2-11 13:38
cecilia颖: I know. anything could happen.
It's very scary, I know it means very little but you have my support
Reply Report SEARU 2016-2-11 20:31
The story sounds like fiction novel.  
One thing is certain that both of you would take another invisible college-education-cause to accept each other on language and culture!
Reply Report CarolleRain 2016-2-12 13:00
I have a friend whose boyfriend is an Indian. At first, her parents said no to their relationship, but after 3-year persuation, she finally got her parents' support. I think you can try as much as she did, if you really want to keep a long relationship with him.

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