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foreignchinese Post time: 2014-1-15 07:26
Perhaps you may want to ponder why your marriage with this MD failed. You must admit you marry her ...
You assume that cooking, cleaning, shopping are all "wife duties."
This is not how we view it in the US. We view marriage as a partnership. Each spouse does different things for the success of the partnership. Those things are not firmly husband or wife duties.
When she came to America, she had to study and study for years. Passed all her tests finally, then had to work for free for a while to find a residency. All this time, I was working full-time, and doing half of the housework. I did not worship her. I pitied her a little, because she had to start her career over again here. Just tried to be supportive.
But she is an only child. Her parents did all the housework so she could study more. As a fully-functioning adult, she was a big failure. Even when she had time to do this stuff, she didn't do it; she left it for me.
These traditional Chinese marriages only work when both partners have the same expectations. When the woman knows she'll be doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and child-rearing, and the man will be making money. (seems like the many has the easier job to me...)
In some cultures, this still works. Even in America, some women are fine with the idea of being a housewife. But also in America, there are now some house-husbands! The woman is educated and successful, and the man is a knuckle-dragger, who has to cook, clean, and do laundry. ;)