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My fiancé's son has the same problem, as do lots of kids in China these days.|
Sometimes, he wants to go out and play, but there is no one there. He looks for his schoolmates, knocks on their doors, but they cannot come out or are not home at that moment.
Yeah, this is an unfortunate side effect of the one child policy. If you cannot pay the fine, you cannot make more babies.
Here's one thing you can tell her: If you have another baby, she will be 9 and the baby will be 0. There's too much of an age gap for them to play anyway.
When my fiancé came to visit me this past July, she brought her 9 year old son, who had been bugging her to have another baby with me. She told him: "you already HAVE a younger sister: Jeremy's daughter. She is a year and a half old. You can play with her all you want!"
He was excited at the idea, while we both laughed to ourselves a bit.
She wants to move blocks and toys from one place to the other. Cannot speak. She does not know how to run and play soccer or ride a bicycle. She cannot play Game Boy with him or talk about a TV show with him. One time, we were riding in the car together somewhere. They two were sitting together in the back seat. She was trying to play with him, and he didn't know what to do. Her games are too simple for him, he is bored in about 10 seconds with them. My fiancé said: "Play with her. She wants to play with you!" So what did he do? He gave her his Game Boy. She was interested for a minute, then made it all sticky and almost dropped it.
Later that day, he told her: "Mom, I've changed my mind. You and Jeremy don't need to have another baby for me."
Tell this to your daughter. If she doesn't believe you, find a friend who has just had a baby, and let her play with the baby as much as possible. Soon, she will be bored to tears, then she will understand you.
As Seneca said, she needs to focus on making friends, as it's too late for you to make a playmate sybling for her.
I'm lucky: my brother is only 16 months younger than me, so we played together a LOT when we grew up. I feel sorry for all these lonely Chinese kids, even if they can have a better education and more attention from their parents, they are missing out on something.