Author: messi30

Does the respect should be regulated by people´s age? [Copy link] 中文

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Post time 2013-8-9 17:47:04 |Display all floors
Rearwindow Post time: 2013-8-7 10:55
Not all elder people are as stubburn as a mule.
Most of times, they will accept your points and kee ...

Generally elder people are stubborn but in different grades.
My point is why in China most of elders in certain moments behave in authoritarian way and the younger should listen and keep shut the mouth ( I don´t mean should fight or talk back in angry way)  even the complain they can receive is totally wrong.
I saw in my neighbors , in my parents in law, in some quarrels in the street and what i get as an answer is ¨talking back to them is a lack of respect¨.

So the respect should be from one side only?
Denial, according the psychoanalysts, is one of the most primary mechanisms of defense. It consists in the attitude of denying or minimizing obvious facts of reality with which the individual can´t  cope or whose irresponsibility is unable to meet.

And I agree.

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Post time 2013-8-12 18:54:15 |Display all floors
I was taughter to respect the elder people. So when there are any conversations between elders I only keep quiet and listening. I am practicing taiji with elder people now, Some of them do gain my respects ,but some of them do not. But I do not point them when they said something wrong.
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Post time 2013-8-13 10:09:35 |Display all floors
messi30 Post time: 2013-8-9 17:47
Generally elder people are stubborn but in different grades.
My point is why in China most of eld ...

Yes. one side only.
One shoud be obedient to senior people
Life is what you make of it

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Post time 2013-8-13 16:44:54 |Display all floors
greatlady Post time: 2013-8-12 18:54
I was taughter to respect the elder people. So when there are any conversations between elders I onl ...

That´s the right thing to do too.
Better not interfere in elders conversation to aviod some argues

But I do not point them when they said something wrong.

but what about if they said something wrong directly to you?
Denial, according the psychoanalysts, is one of the most primary mechanisms of defense. It consists in the attitude of denying or minimizing obvious facts of reality with which the individual can´t  cope or whose irresponsibility is unable to meet.

And I agree.

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Post time 2013-8-13 16:58:32 |Display all floors
DSseeing Post time: 2013-8-13 10:09
Yes. one side only.
One shoud be obedient to senior people

Blindly obedient?

Older people have that power on youngsters so easily?
Denial, according the psychoanalysts, is one of the most primary mechanisms of defense. It consists in the attitude of denying or minimizing obvious facts of reality with which the individual can´t  cope or whose irresponsibility is unable to meet.

And I agree.

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Post time 2013-8-13 19:44:49 |Display all floors
messi30 Post time: 2013-8-13 16:44
That´s the right thing to do too.
Better not interfere in elders conversation to aviod some argue ...

I will just  keep silent for peace.
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Post time 2013-8-14 02:45:52 |Display all floors
greatlady Post time: 2013-8-13 19:44
I will just  keep silent for peace.

I am also, especial when have some issuing with my parents

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