Author: Johnelin

[Cross-culture marriage] Will my presence shame her parents and family? [Copy link] 中文

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Post time 2013-7-23 16:09:56 |Display all floors
raton Post time: 2013-7-20 19:07
Take the advice of your fiancé, just be nice to the Chines and they will replay in kind. There some ...

sounds very reassuring

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Post time 2013-7-26 12:29:34 |Display all floors
Johnelin Post time: 2013-7-23 16:09
What happens if if I stay over a month ?

They will get tired to treat you well.


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Post time 2013-8-4 07:37:44 |Display all floors
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Post time 2013-8-29 20:03:50 |Display all floors
It is rare in life that people that choose their own husband or wife pick the kind of person their parents dreamed of having as a son or daughter in law.  It happens but more often than not the inlaws see the groom to be through a defect detecting microscope while the bride sees him through blind love.

The thing that is important is how you both see the issue and are you prepared to face the challenges that marriage brings when it involves people from different backgrounds.  You need to be prepared to face challenges together and resxolve them together.  You will need to accept personality and cultural differences and make room for them even if you do not agree or understand.  You must do this for love of her and to ensure a healthy relationship.  At the same time you must also preserve who you are and wnsure your home allows you to be who you are while respecting your new wife and her relatives.

My Advice is continue to learn Chinese do not let it go by the wayside as you will gain a lot of satisfaction and respect if you are able to join in the conversations.  They will still likely switch to their llocal dialect for comfort or clarity (or secrecy) but they will beable to communicate.  If you love, respect and support each other her relatives and close friends will respect and support her if not at first after a few years.  If they don't and you are genuine then you have to accept  that it is their problem and leave it to them but continue to show respect for them even if at a distance.

Attitude : Life is 10 percent what happens to you,  and 90 percent how you react to it.

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Post time 2013-8-30 15:35:01 |Display all floors
RonJaDa Post time: 2013-8-29 20:03
It is rare in life that people that choose their own husband or wife pick the kind of person their p ...

Life is what you make of it

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