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Laowai2? Post time: 2013-5-3 18:29
I already have a Chinese wife whom I met by chance in China and not through any kind of agency. Sh ...
Thanks for the good advice. Let me respond line by line:
If she has a good job in China why does she want to leave her family and move to another country?
She doesn't particularly want to. We just decided it is more practical for her to move here than vice versa. Cleaner air, better medicine, more open-minded education, she speaks English while I don't speak Mandarin, etc.
Did she introduce you to her parents (Chinese equivalent of getting engaged)?
No. Her dad is dead, and her mom is a leech, who lives halfway across the country.
Will she easily be able to find work in your country (maybe within the same company)?
Yes, I think so. We are going to look into her just transferring, and whether that is doable.
Had you considered moving to China?
Yes, but it would mean abandoning my daughter. My ex-wife has sole custody, and I have visitation. I lose that if I go to China, and will not know my own child.
Have you looked into the issues of income required by you when considering her immigration?
You mean, to pay immigration fees and lawyer fees? Yes, that is going to be a challenge, but I don't think it costs as much as divorce lawyers. ;)
Have you looked into how you will bring her over (fianceé visa?) and how long you have before you must marry?
Kind of. My ex-wife and I looked into that before we got married, and the fiancee visa is kind of a dicey proposition. It seems like it gets denied a lot more often, and takes a lot longer to get through the system. I will ask the immigration lawyer's advice.
Have you looked for information and advice from fellow Americans on THIS Forum
I haven't, but I will! Thanks for the reference!
BTW you can ignore "advice" from some in this thread as anything to do with laowai is going to be bad
Well, I try to stay open-minded and consider all advice that is constructive. The people who chime in that we're doomed based on the assumption that she is a gold-digger and have obviously ignored what I posted, I ignore those people. Some people here have been burned by a Chinese woman, and extend their bitterness to ALL Chinese women. I won't let that influence me very much either. My ex is a Polish woman, and I won't consider that all Poles are bad just because she is.