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Self-Love: 9 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself Today [Copy link] 中文

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Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”----Henry James


Being kind to yourself in everyday life is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Life will become lighter and your relationships will most likely improve. You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up.


But it also one thing that is often neglected or something some may feel guilty about doing.


To make positive change with that simply start a new habit today. One of kindness towards yourself. You can find 9 such habits of self-kindness below.


Don’t try everything today. Choose one thing. And just go with it for today. If it felt good and helped you out then just continue doing it tomorrow.


1. Invest in yourself. Spend 30-60 minutes in the morning or evening with reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself and the world or that helps you to live a better life. Then, if possible, take one small action on what you have learned.


2. Find the truth and exception when an inner critic or outer critic attacks. Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you to you. People around you may attack you or try to bring you down to serve one of their own needs. If you or someone else does this, ask yourself: what is the exception to this though?


This is very effective to change your train of thoughts, to find the truth and to not get down on yourself.


For example, if you or someone says that you are not doing a good job in school then you can ask the question and find answers that tell you that isn’t really true. If you question the attack and look for the exception you may for instance see that you are actually doing a good job in most of your courses, but may be a bit unfocused and lazy in math and physics.

That is a more nuanced truth that helps you rather than just brings you down.


3. Set a low bar for happiness. Wake up in the morning. Relax for a minute. Tell yourself: “Today I will set a low bar for happiness”.


I use this one often and it is such a simple thing that makes a big difference to my day. As I tell myself this and try to keep it in mind during the day I appreciate things more. The food, my work, the weather, the people and the small events of the day becomes not everyday stuff but something I feel happy to have.


The small things or what may be something one takes for granted becomes something I now often pause for a moment or two to take in and appreciate.


This approach to the day makes life lighter, more joyful and it becomes easier to keep the motivation up.


4. Unstress tonight. Take a long bath and read something to escape. Or work out. Or talk to someone about something that is on your mind and let it all out. Set aside 30 minutes or more and be kind to your body and mind by letting the tensions and stress out.


5. Mediocre day? Take one small step forward towards something positive. If your day feels mediocre or just sort of depressing then take one small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day and week.

Book or research a trip you want to take. Setup a dinner or a cup of coffee with a good friend. Look into how you can grow in your career to get new and exciting stuff to do. Try a new hobby.


6. If you stumble, be your own best friend. Don’t beat yourself up, that will erode your self-esteem. Be a kind and supportive friend to yourself instead.


Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation?


And then do things and talk to yourself like he or she would.


And remember to ask yourself what you can learn from your stumble and if there is an opportunity in this situation. Then take that new knowledge you gain and move forward once again.


7. Take a laugh-break. Take 20-30 minutes in the middle of your day or if that is not possible then use your morning or evening. Use your cell phone, portable media player, computer or TV and watch an episode of a sitcom, read a funny book or comic or listen to a podcast you know makes you laugh.


I have been using this one for over a decade, even before I got seriously interested in personal development. I find it to be one of the most effective things I can do to recharge my energy and optimism and to release inner tensions.


8. Remember, the future is still in your hands. And it is never too late to change. Don’t get stuck in thought loops that just go round and round about what you could have done or what went wrong.


Think about what you really want in the rest of your life instead. Better health? A great relationship? New challenges in your career?


What are a few small steps you can take towards that goal? Take one of those steps today. Then another tomorrow.


9. Simply remind yourself of why is smart to be kind to yourself. By knowing the reasons why it is smart to be kinder to yourself it, in my experience, becomes easier and easier to be kind to yourself and to take the time for it every day.


By reminding yourself of benefits such as better real life results, more perseverance, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness and stillness, more positive relationships with yourself and other people it becomes easier to stay kind to yourself through life’s natural ups and downs.

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Post time 2012-9-25 12:31:04 |Display all floors
good tips...

yesterday I talked with my close friend about what is important in life... and I claimed that first is to be OK with oneself, because maybe all the answers and solutions are inside us...

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