I'm a chinese man. This year, I have trouble with my family, exactly my parents.
Last year I had a girlfriend at college. But my parents don't like her. They let me leave my gf. I said I can't, because I know I love her.
So what should I do with this matter.
I don't let my parents down.
And my parents said , if I didn't say "goodbye" to that girl, they would leave me alone . They mean that I should obey .
HUShi, a famous chinese scholar, a liberalist, told me , as a son, I have my own life, I have my rights to decide my life, and parents can give me some suggestion , but they should not interfere my normal activity after I have been a adult.
I don't know whether I can do like that in China.
This is emotional blackmail and 100% unfair. Your parents are not acting with reason or logic. Or even maturity. Talk to them calmly, patiently, and tell them you love them. Than ask why they are forcing you to choose between two sides (2 parents or gf), two sides that you love.
They should be able to respect the decisions you make, as an adult.
Ask them why they are forcing a grown man to do something against his heart.
Ask them for reasons. If they are truely doing this because they are more knowledgable about society they must have reasons. ugly isn't a reason, lots of ugly people have great relationships and marriages.