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Originally posted by vorgal78 at 2010-7-13 23:41
I am only a couple of years older than my lady wife.
Good for the both of you because the communication does ease things somewhat. But, that doesn't mean that 'financial security' weren't the initial driving force and, like an illness, diabetes for examples, people inflicted with it learn to live with it.
Given her family background my wife would have had a much easier life had she stayed in China and lived off the generosity of her parents instead of trying to forge her own path with me in a foreign land.
Good for you she's truthful. Chinese females generally are faithful to whoever they marry, a black, a Hindu, a Hisbanic even, because they are not as daring as blondes, brunettes, blacks, or others, hence simply falls into the slot of the puzzel they been placed.
However, that does not mean she didn't offered herself initially on the bases of financial security and, the word "America" alone is more than cause for any Chinese women to get their feet in American soil.
Real life example: My wife's Uncle and his spouse both work as engineers for PetroChina, natural gas division, PRC, and now since retired. Their combine pension: roughly $10,000 USD annually. Good living by Chinese standards. Of course, they have subsidized housing as well. now, that's guaranteed colorful stuff for a Chinese family, wouldn't you agree?
Now, this is dedicated to those of our younger generation: The parents offered their daughter for marriage (lucky for her it's a Chinese guy working for high tech firm Pheonex AZ. She very happy), the new family's annual income gross over 200K USD. However, she could have married a Chinese guy who was filthy poor in China back then (university class mates) but opted for the Arizona man because the word America alone was more than the draw for both parent and daughter.
Now however, this Chinese guy had built himself an empire and grosses over 2 million USD annually in the PRC. The guy started a consulting firm for the oil and gas exploration industry in China 5 years after he entered the field after graduation and now filthy filthy rich.
I would like to see what you base this on.
Just look at any white women who marry a black guy and see if they ever break up. They'll get out the Nicole Simpson way, maybe, but definitely not many get out without having to go through some kinds of abuse or exploit. I think a lot of whites are going for yellows precisely because of this reason -- their women had been taken over by blacks. personal opinion only of course.
You make it sound like hating your wife is fine. Wouldnt want to divorce her properly and lose face, just continue having a affair and ignore your ruined marriage.
Sorry, my friend, the wife is very very Chinese. doesn't even watch white man movies; plays Majong; and, puts Zhang Zhiyi to damn shame both appearance and intelligence wise. 40 years marriage Man! 40 years. also teaches daughters that Chinese is where its at meaning two fine very Chinese kids to my credit.
Mel Gibson is a tool, a violent drunkard. I guess in your vast experience you consider all non chinese to be the same.
I just love that family man image in... what you call that movie -- "contact" was it? All about encounters and such?
I'm sorry, but the concept of a dowry was given away quite some time ago. As I said my wife married me for me, I didnt force her and she certainly knew that if her goal was to be rich and live off my "fat" accounts, then should would be sorely disapointed.
No need to explain. We are Chinese and we know how the average Chinese marriage are "ARRANGED" in China these days.
[ Last edited by edisonone at 2010-7-14 06:35 AM ]