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Post time 2009-9-20 11:40:30 |Display all floors
help i am so much in love with this chinese guy our relationship are filled with so much no's that it is filling my eyes with tears ......i am a dirvorce mother of two kids ...he is 27....single and works in a casino......i am black and he is chineses ...i speak englishhe speaks chinese ......iknow he likes me but he does gives gifts he never

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Post time 2009-9-20 11:51:29 |Display all floors
Love is a battle where to win you have to learn some tricks; all heart and soul is not sure guarantee for success.

Don't be so attached to a person to the point of losing your independence. Do what you can do to win his love and if he refuses to be moved, go find another guy. As they say, there are always a lot of fish out there in the sea.

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Post time 2009-9-20 13:43:39 |Display all floors
I'm so sorry to read your ad.
u don't so sorry about it. and  maybe you can find a better man in the future. you can find your good friends to go traveling or do some other things. may be it is better to you .

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Post time 2009-9-20 14:58:50 |Display all floors
Originally posted by shoafeng at 2009-9-20 11:40
help i am so much in love with this chinese guy our relationship are filled with so much no's that it is filling my eyes with tears ......i am a dirvorce mother of two kids ...he is 27....single an ...

Thern thois is not love ,it is a torure.
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Post time 2009-9-20 15:08:42 |Display all floors
Originally posted by lostsheep at 2009-9-20 11:51
Love is a battle where to win you have to learn some tricks; all heart and soul is not sure guarantee for success.

Don't be so attached to a person to the point of losing your independence. Do  ...



I do not agree with you.Love is not a battle.People who find love as a battle they do not know how to love and they do not know how to behave to the ones they love them.


In  a battle there are two competitors or two enemies.Our partner or lover should be the best friend for us ,the second soul ,a soul mate ,not a competitor ,not an enemy.Not somebody to win .
For me love is not a battle ,it is an endless garden where two people can enjoy the smell of the flowers the security of love and the passion of feelings.
If your partner finds it like a battle then you can do nothing.Life will give him a lesson in the future or he will never learn.These people the only thing they know is how to kill their lover.
Oh yes in a battle one kills the other.This is not love ,sorry.
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Post time 2009-9-20 15:47:49 |Display all floors
Originally posted by xilaren at 2009-9-20 15:08



I do not agree with you.Love is not a battle.People who find love as a battle they do not know how to love and they do not know how to behave to the ones they love them.


In  a battle the ...


I am sorry that my metaphor likening the process of winning a person's love to a battle is interpreted the way you did, which is not really what I had in mind when I made that observation. Perhaps I did make it quite clear.

By battle I primarily mean what happens before two persons really fall in love with each other. It is more a tactic than a strategy. You use the battle tricks not to kill her, nor cheat her, but to channel her into getting closer and closer to you, to the finer aspects that may be valued by her but that otherwise will not be known to her unless she bothers to get closer to you, for which purpose it is advisable for you to employ some tricks.

You have to admit these days people are more easily attracted to more tangible qualities such as appearance than those inner qualities such as commitment and character, because most of people are not really close to their inner selves as they should be so as to be receptive to the more precious qualities of the heart of others. What's the harm if you do some innocent well-meant tricks to get her close to you so as to give her a glance into the more finer and precious things that you have got for her, to delight her?

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Post time 2009-9-21 05:50:58 |Display all floors
Originally posted by lostsheep at 2009-9-20 15:47


I am sorry that my metaphor likening the process of winning a person's love to a battle is interpreted the way you did, which is not really what I had in mind when I made that observation. Perh ...



Love is a battle where to win you have to learn some tricks.
I think you were quite clear .How elease can somebody interprete this phrase.It does not leave space for any doubts.
You are not talking only about a battle which let's say it was used by mistake by you ,you are also talking about winning.
You also talk about some tactis which you use.
Come on do not underestimate our mentality.
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