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The wife and the mother-in-law? [Copy link] 中文

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Post time 2009-8-27 16:53:49 |Display all floors
I often read articles about the relationship between the wife and her mother-in-law. (I'm not married) Most of the posts are uploaded by wivies who dislike their mothers-in-law. They write about how their mothers-in-law badly treat them. This reminds me the traditional Chinese family concept, which considers the wife is the belong of the husband's family, she must think about her parents-in-law first rather than her own parents. She should live with husband and his families and gives birth to the child. Even though it is the 21 century now, many parents-in-law, especially mothers-in-law who are from rural areas, think in this way.

How to handle the relationship between the two women as a man? Or how to treat the mother-in-law as a woman?
I am a Beijing girl.

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Post time 2009-8-27 23:16:21 |Display all floors
Okay, well I'm a foreigner and I have a step father. His mother disliked my mother for years.  My mother continually kept being nice to her, with my step father also saying to his mother "this is the woman I love"...then eventually my mother said "I'VE HAD ENOUGH!" she just didn't give a ---- what his mother thought, went over there and everything. Finally, his mother in law came around.

From psychology perspective, usually there are reasons why the mother in law doesn't like the daughter in law and it's most likely stupid. Jealousy of the son, feelings that his wife is not good enough. I say do as my mother did and just not care, if she comes around she does, if not she doesn't. Bottom line is that your with the one you love!

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Post time 2009-8-28 00:54:10 |Display all floors
Originally posted by polaris1120 at 2009-8-27 16:53
How to handle the relationship between the two women as a man? ..



As a man

And

As a very practical man

When come to dealing with them

I look at the two women

And ask myself

One question

Who can stay alive longer with me?

My wife or my mother?          :)

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Post time 2009-8-28 08:46:13 |Display all floors
Who can stay alive longer with me?

My wife o ... [/quote]



you must be a great husband. I often told my bf like this,

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Post time 2009-8-28 09:23:15 |Display all floors
If you and your wife don't life together with mother in law.
everything is fine,you don't worry stand which side when they argue

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Post time 2009-8-28 09:27:24 |Display all floors

Reply #4 xiaokecumt's post

Maybe you are a good turor.you can change your bf! i am so proud of you.

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Post time 2009-8-28 09:28:47 |Display all floors
Originally posted by xiaokecumt at 2009-8-28 08:46
Who can stay alive longer with me?

My wife o ...




you must be a great husband. I often told my bf like this, [/quote]


Maybe you are a good turor.you can change your bf! i am so proud of you.

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