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We often read articles and posts on the Internet concerning the relationship between a woman and her mother-in-law. Those who exposed their stories often can't handle the relation well with each other. The wives always think their husbands are too loyal to their mothers, don't understand their wives. The mothers-in-law, also believe their sons don't treat them as well as before, they tend to "ignore their mothers" after getting married. |
I think this problem happens in China and other Confucian countries because traditionally, a woman is educated to totally obey her husbband and his famlily after married. There's an old saying, "When you're single, you obey your father. If your father passes away, you should obey your brother. After getting married, you must obey your husband". But this is common in the old society in which women were not allowed to work to support themselves, so they had to listen to their husbands to make a living. In today's world, including China, women are more and more independent, they don't need to do what their husbands want them to do. However, the older generation, like those monters-in-law and some husbands are male chauvinists. Their feudatorial thinkings are dangerous for the family.
The problem of women and their mothers-in-law lasts for thousands of years in China, and maybe will continue to exist in the next century. Do you have some ideas to ease the tension between the two groups of women?
[ Last edited by souvenir at 2008-12-9 09:21 AM ]