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Post time 2008-10-2 23:13:59 |Display all floors
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Flirting is a basic instinct, part of a human nature. It is a universal and essential aspect of human interaction. We see flirting as a fun thing; a man flirts with a woman in order to attract her, to ask her on a date.

There are two reasons why people flirt. Guys which are flirting for fun do this because they might seen a beautiful woman and flirt with her, in order to meet her better, to have fun with her, but not to start a relationship. The others, which are flirting with intent, are more selective about their choice, and want to meet someone for a possible relationship.

Married and flirting do not mix well. However, many people do not consider this wrong as far as it is just for fun. Flirting is like a game but sometimes when you return the flirt things go a little further. Often flirting is spontaneous, it just happens as a normal response to somebody you find appealing.

There are people who consider that flirting with married people is harmless. Therefore, it is at your choice if you really want to flirt with a married woman and if you can handle it.:)

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Post time 2008-10-2 23:18:52 |Display all floors
The following statistics are from

It's tough to get a handle on how many of us are having affairs, given the inherent secrecy.

-22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
-14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
-Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger women are as likely as younger men to be unfaithful.
-70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.
-5 percent of married men and 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse in the year1997.
-22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past.
-90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong.
-50 percent of Americans say President Clinton's adultery makes his moral standard "about the same as the average married man,'' according to a Time-CNN poll.
-61 percent of Americans thought adultery should not be a crime in the United states; 35 percent thought it should; 4 percent had no opinion.
-17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.

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-Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship (Atwood & Schwartz, 2002 - Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy)

-Only 46% of men believe that online affairs are adultery. DivorceMag

-80% think it's Ok to talk with a stranger identified as the opposite sex. 75% thinks it's ok to visit an adult site.

-About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in some marriage "Monogamy Myth", Therapist Peggy Vaugn

-About 24 percent of men and 14 percent of women have had sex outside their marriages, according to a Dec. 21, 1998 report in USA Today on a national study by the University of California, San Francisco.

-Affairs affect one of every 2.7 couples, according to counselor Janis Abrahms Spring, author of After the Affair,as reported by the -ashington Post on March 30, 1999. Ten percent of extramarital affairs last one day, 10 percent last more than one day but less than a month, 50 percent last more than a month but less than a year, but 40 percent last two or more years. Few extramarital affairs last more than four years.

-A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the person with whom they are having the affair. For example, Dr. Jan Halper’s study of successful men (executives, entrepreneurs, professionals) found that very few men who have affairs divorce their wife and marry their lovers. Only 3 percent of the 4,100 successful men surveyed eventually married their lovers.

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Post time 2008-10-2 23:24:32 |Display all floors
-57% of people have used the Internet to flirt.

-38% of people have engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and 50% of people have made phone contact with someone they chatted with online.

-Evidence proves there is a high correlation between on-line infidelity and subsequent real-time sexual affairs.

-Evidence supports the existence of disinhibition, accelerated intimacy, and hyper-sexual online behavior that can easily lead to real-time infidelity

-31% of people have had an online conversation that has led to real-time sex.

-It is estimated that 53% of all people will have one or more affairs during their lifetime.

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Post time 2008-10-2 23:26:35 |Display all floors
This is a notation for the above statistics:

Note that the above adultry statistics of the prevalence of affairs were made more than a decade ago; so based on changes in society during the intervening years, the current percentage of the population who have had affairs is probably somewhat HIGHER. For instance, the continuing increase of women in the workplace and the increase of women having affairs on the Internet means that the numbers for women having affairs is probably similar to those for men—about 60%.

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Post time 2008-10-2 23:30:25 |Display all floors
Unfaithful men. . . Infidelity threatens Chinese family values
The Straits Times, 1 August 2000

BEIJING -- Marriage in China is under attack, with increasing reports of bigamy, illegal cohabitation and extramarital affairs which have led to the breakdown of family values and even murder, jeopardising social stability.

In particular, the practice of taking a mistress is soaring, posing a “serious threat to China's statutory rule of monogamy”, said Mr Hu Kangsheng, Deputy Director of the Legislative Affairs Commission of the National People's Congress (NPC) standing committee.

This has led to the breakdown of family values and even murder, posing a threat to social stability, he said.

“It has also disrupted the implementation of the State's one-child family planning policy.”

Women's groups trying to battle the trend have to face an ingrained culture that suggests that a man is not a success unless he has at least one concubine.

The practice is particularly entrenched in the southern province of Guangdong, where the booming economy has created a whole generation of newly-rich.

Some have become so successful that they have acquired not only a regular mistress, but a second and even a third, often disguised as a maid or a secretary.

In Chinese, this phenomenon is called bao ernai -- literally “taking a second wife”.

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Post time 2008-10-3 21:35:10 |Display all floors
we should't  fussy  about  it,that is very popular in the office!

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