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Post time 2008-1-29 10:49:32 |Display all floors
after havn a long distance gf

ive stepped into another one

and realised that same thing is happening..

am i a bad guy..
1 want to be faithful
2get business right for upporting her family in china
3caring about her
4cannot speak good chinese but trying


just dont know what to do please help

Ljw_44@hotmail.com

confused

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Post time 2008-2-2 12:59:02 |Display all floors
Originally posted by ljw_4444 at 2008-1-29 10:49
after havn a long distance gf

ive stepped into another one

and realised that same thing is happening..

am i a bad guy..
1 want to be faithful
2get business right for upporting her famil ...


Do you prefer having long-distance relationship?

Excerpt from source:  http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Long-Distance-Relationship-Work


How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work


It's hard enough to make local relationships work, but having miles, States, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. Here's how to give yours every chance to survive and thrive.

Steps

1) Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line.

Ex.:Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?


2) Communicate in some way every day - more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't have to be long, in-depth conversations (though those should occur sometimes). Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection, but while instant messaging and e-mails play a large role in long distance relationships, remember that they can in no way replace verbal communication. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget.(Even though phone calls might get a little too expensive, there are special cards if you are to call eachother from different countries, there will be no problems with costs since it is very cheap. I highly recomend you get one of those cards, it will be alot cheaper and from experience E-mail and instant messages makes it easier to misuderstand eachother.) Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don't take communication for granted!

3) Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.

4) Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while on you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.
Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match - or someone else is a better match - your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work.

5) Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

6) Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you'll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. Either you'll decide to go your separate ways, or you'll get closer for having overcome another obstacle to your happiness together.

7) Remember that with time things will get better and the relationship will become better, just have hope.



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Post time 2008-2-20 21:18:45 |Display all floors

Good advice

That is good advice on having a long distance relationship.

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