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is the sentence" it is odd." aggressive? [Copy link] 中文

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Post time 2007-9-19 14:34:33 |Display all floors
When I was chatting in a qq group, somebody said he was handsome and not get marriaged. And I said:"it is odd". and that guy thought the sentence was aggressive. so he abused me later.
I am puzzled. I chated with a friend from the UK, when I said some thing wrong ,he would say:it is odd. I think that means there are some mistakes in my sentence. so , I think ,the "it is odd" is not aggressive.
but what happened had puzzled me .
am I wrong with anything ?
Ieave me longly ? lol.......

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Post time 2007-9-19 14:51:40 |Display all floors
I think you can ask him straightforwardly ask why he thinks so.

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Post time 2007-9-19 16:57:17 |Display all floors
understanding problem   , anyway. .. it do have some derogatory sense..hehe...
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Post time 2007-9-19 18:59:41 |Display all floors
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Post time 2007-9-21 21:56:20 |Display all floors
Well, to say "it is odd"  may not be aggressive, but it certainly is judgemental in this situation. You were passing a judgement by saying that (though you may not have realized it). And he didn't like that.

It's like you are telling him there is something wrong with him if he is not married. Even though you don't know anything about him.

It is okay if you are a friend and know him well, But to pass a judgement on a stranger may not sound very good. He may have many reasons for not being married, which he may not want to tell a complete stranger. Tiy just need to give people time to talk about themselves and explain things in their own way.

Actually, I know that most online qq chat can be pretty aggressive, with people trying to find out quickly about others and then dumping them if they don't meet expectations. Maybe your friend does not like that approach.

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