can i marry to him?

rainbow4791

I have promised my bf to marry him after spring festival, both our family have know about it, and even his family have prepared the coming marriage ceremony. coz we both away from our hometown, so this spring fesival, we'll go home and holding the marriage ceremony in our hometown, everything is fine between us i think except both of us quick temper, we always quarrel with each other, but we're fine after few mintues. But between us, their is a big problem, and now i'm very worry about that whether marry to him or not, i'm afraid i'll regret myself after that. you know, my bf like to play Majiang during his free time, he can paly it for hours even to midnight outside. i'm really hate for it, and quarrel with him over this matter. but everytime he pretend to apologize, and promoised  that he'll give up. but he never did.  with the time come by, he still play majing during his free time no matter i'm happy or not, and everytime, he acted the same. i'm very worry about that. what i should do? can i continue to marry to him? i'm very confused now. so can you give me some reasonable suggestion? i need it very much. thank you in advance.

dostoevskydr

Originally posted by rainbow4791 at 2007-1-22 12:16
i'm very worry about that. what i should do? can i continue to marry to him? i'm very confused now. so can you give me some reasonable suggestion? i need it very much. thank you in advance.  ...

Worry is a cycle of inefficient thoughts whirling around a center of fear. You can't start worrying about what's going to happen. You get spastic enough worrying about what's happening now.

Reasonable suggestion ? Under the circumstances, I can only suggest you please find  yourself free to set your course according to your own preference and I presume these preferences will be guided by the value you attach to your own beliefs.

iamnobody

marriage is a big deal, please think carefully..................
i can't give your more addvice coz i haven't been inside the door of marriage, sorry.

purepoppy

you can not deny one man only because one of his disadvantages.  but if you have hesitation to marry him only by this reason, i think you may not love him too much, at least now. this is just the last straw.  you need to take comprehensive consideration about your coming marrage.   stick by your own true feeling...

hellen1815

I think this is only the matter of liking playing majiang. it is a kind of gamble. I know some people who like to gamble very much, mostly playing cards. The money is gone and come fast, they play cards regardless it is daytime or night. Usually the family argue with that and suffer much, but it is difficult for them to give up gamble. So I think you really need to consider your marriage carefully.

sinfulangel

it is your marriage..do u think you can stand a man who plays marjong all the time??...i cant...he sounds like someone has no goals at all...marriage is indeed insanity

mark069

Originally posted by sinfulangel at 2007-1-21 23:32
it is your marriage..do u think you can stand a man who plays marjong all the time??...i cant...he sounds like someone has no goals at all...marriage is indeed insanity

Well at least he isn't playing video games all the time....