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Post time 2006-11-26 11:34:21 |Display all floors
I got on this subject in another thread so I'm starting a new one.

What would you trust people with? Strangers? Friends? Spouses?

WHat things are you most likely to keep guarded and not trust anyone with?

I said I'd trust a stranger with my life (like if he had to save me from an accident or help me climb a mountain) but I wouldn't trust him with my bank account number.
Why? My life is more important than my bank account...

Are there limits to what we think people might take advantage of? Would a "bad person" be bad to some extent, like steal money from you, but still save your life? Reminds me of the guy from "Crash", where he molested the woman, he was racist, but then later he saved her life.

Is there something that someone might share with you that shows you they finally trust you?
Is there something that you would share with them to show you finally trust them?
I am not rich.  :L

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Post time 2006-11-26 11:41:18 |Display all floors
no matter how much i trust someone...there are few things i will never share with others ...
I don't know if I like you or love you, want you or need you, all I know is I love the feeling I get when I'm near you.

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Post time 2006-11-26 12:29:07 |Display all floors
I think spouse is the one that I would trust with anything unconditionally, say, with my life and with my bank account.
Well, I'm single and it's easy for me to say that.
Maybe it's too idealistic to think so...and maybe thinking like that is the reason why I'm still single...

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Post time 2006-11-26 12:37:12 |Display all floors
freakyqi why do you come up with these hard questions all the time my little brain can't handle the pressure, it's just fortunate that I know a little bit about trust from real life experiences, people trust me with their lives every day and it does not worry them, but when I walk down the street in civies they never make eye contact and they avoid me like the plague, people would trust me with their lives just because I am wearing an ambulance jacket yet they won't share the same piece of sidewalk, and as you know I trust no one,
There are no Ugly women , only those with low self esteem .

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Post time 2006-11-26 14:51:24 |Display all floors

a good question, but hard to answer.

Here is how I feel. Some times it doesn't need you do too much to get another's trust. But some times it does. It can also happen that  you even try a lot but still feel you fail to get any trust .   Human is perhaps the most complex animal around world.
All I can do is trying to be sincere to everyone around me and hoping they do so.

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Post time 2006-11-26 14:56:20 |Display all floors
trust is hard to earn....so i dont expect ppl to trust me ..

i dont trust people..cos i dont wnana spend time to know that part..
I don't know if I like you or love you, want you or need you, all I know is I love the feeling I get when I'm near you.

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Post time 2006-11-26 15:45:10 |Display all floors
You are not comparing apple to apple. There are study in Psychology which says if you got into an accident, you are more likely to get help when there are less people around than there are more people around. Considering you had your car broken in a country road, the driver in the only car driving by will feel more obligated to help vs. if you had your car broken on a highway, majority of the drivers passing by won't even think about to stop. The strangers could not take advantage of your life, but could take advantage of your banking account.

The society is build upon trust. We had to trust strangers otherwise the society won't be functional. We trust the engineer build the airplanes so the airplane won't crash(at least not that often), we trust the banking clerk won't mess up with our account(remember Y2K), we trust the food we eat is safe(though this is quite questionable in nowadays China).

At the personal level, I won't trust anyone unless I really know him/her. There are some people out there not worthy trusting.

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