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Post time 2006-10-30 05:43:04 |Display all floors
My roomate and I took a trip to a nearby University this weekend to see his girlfriend.  Unknown to me, they also set me up with a girl !!   She was very nice, but I said no thanks, we will be nice friends.  She was not my type and perhaps my heart is elsewhere anyway...

This led to me think of a couple from Pakistan in my hometown.  They were married 4 years ago.  When the man was ready to marry, he asked his parents to find him a bride.  His parents found a young woman in Pakistan they thought would be a good match.  The first time he met her was on their wedding day!!  They have been married ever since.  Are they in love?  I don't know.  But they seem to like each other.

Do you think you could be in an arranged marriage?  Could you trust your parents to make a good selection?  Is it possible to fall in love after the marriage?   ... and what an awkward honeymoon that must make!!

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Post time 2006-10-30 05:56:07 |Display all floors

forget it about that

Originally posted by whataboutbob at 2006-10-30 05:43
My roomate and I took a trip to a nearby University this weekend to see his girlfriend.  Unknown to me, they also set me up with a girl !!   She was very nice, but I said no thanks, we will be nice ...

you will repent it one day when you find true love one day
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Post time 2006-10-30 05:57:09 |Display all floors
Originally posted by whataboutbob at 2006-10-30 05:43
My roomate and I took a trip to a nearby University this weekend to see his girlfriend.  Unknown to me, they also set me up with a girl !!   She was very nice, but I said no thanks, we will be nice ...


They can learn to love each other. Remember the movie "fiddler on the roof"? The husband asked the wife "Do you love me" and how she answered him. I thought that was briliant. I wish I have the lyrics with me to share with you and the viewers.

Hey, you know what! I founf the lyrics. This is my lucky day.


Artist: Lyrics
Song: Do You Love Me? Lyrics
(Tevye)
"Golde, I have decided to give Perchik permission to become engaged to our daughter, Hodel."

(Golde)
"What??? He's poor! He has nothing, absolutely nothing!"

(Tevye)
"He's a good man, Golde.
I like him. And what's more important, Hodel likes him. Hodel loves him.
So what can we do?
It's a new world... A new world. Love. Golde..."

Do you love me?

(Golde)
Do I what?

(Tevye)
Do you love me?

(Golde)
Do I love you?
With our daughters getting married
And this trouble in the town
You're upset, you're worn out
Go inside, go lie down!
Maybe it's indigestion

(Tevye)
"Golde I'm asking you a question..."

Do you love me?

(Golde)
You're a fool

(Tevye)
"I know..."

But do you love me?

(Golde)
Do I love you?
For twenty-five years I've washed your clothes
Cooked your meals, cleaned your house
Given you children, milked the cow
After twenty-five years, why talk about love right now?

(Tevye)
Golde, The first time I met you
Was on our wedding day
I was scared

(Golde)
I was shy

(Tevye)
I was nervous

(Golde)
So was I

(Tevye)
But my father and my mother
Said we'd learn to love each other
And now I'm asking, Golde
Do you love me?

(Golde)
I'm your wife

(Tevye)
"I know..."
But do you love me?

(Golde)
Do I love him?
For twenty-five years I've lived with him
Fought him, starved with him
Twenty-five years my bed is his
If that's not love, what is?

(Tevye)
Then you love me?

(Golde)
I suppose I do

(Tevye)
And I suppose I love you too

(Both)
It change a thing
But even so
After twenty-five years
It's nice to know

[Thanks to amcanclini@yahoo.com for lyrics]


Oh, this song brings me tears of warmth and joy.

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Post time 2006-10-30 06:02:49 |Display all floors

too much for you tonight

Originally posted by thunderbird at 2006-10-30 05:57


They can learn to love each other. Remember the movie "fiddler on the roof"? The husband asked the wife "Do you love me" and how she answered him. I thought that was brilian ...

Too much work for you thunderbird tonight.To handle with our problems.
You have always been so useful to us.Such a good psycologist.Thanks a lot
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Post time 2006-10-30 10:39:21 |Display all floors
Originally posted by xilaren at 2006-10-30 06:02

Too much work for you thunderbird tonight.To handle with our problems.
You have always been so useful to us.Such a good psycologist.Thanks a lot


I thank you for your appreciation.

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Post time 2006-10-30 10:59:04 |Display all floors
Some arranged marriages can find love, sure. However, it seems to be a rare occurance. Usually the best most can hope for is a strong, friendly partnership.

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Post time 2006-10-30 11:06:59 |Display all floors
Arranged marriage had a history of thousands of years in China before people were called on to abandon it in 1949 when PRC was founded...! Though a lot has been done in government's effort to uproot this bad practice..., its traces still can be seen in some rural areas of the country...!

In my opinion, the existence of anything itself proves its value...! Arranged marriage, though it's not a good practice as it's being regarded to be , does play a role in marrige lives of lots of people of whom some do live a happy life...! What is supposed to be done at present time is to combine its advantages with those of 'free' marriages...! Only in such a way can the so-called arranged marriages last...!!!

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