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Actually the West is not all uniform in their actions and thoughts.|
Europe, for example, has almost totally backed away from their former Imperialist tendencies. Asians, men in particular, have a much easier time finding mates there because culturally the Europeans are more sophisticated and more willing to accept the Asian man, who is perceived as more studious and diligent.
Americans , on the other hand, are still bound by their frontier mentality--- that is, to be worth anything, men must be big and strong, rugged individuals. That's why the most popular American sports emphasize American football, basketball, heavy weight wrestling, heavy weight boxing, etc. Other sports that take more physical sophistication, like table tennis, badmintong, judo, etc. hardly get any press in American media and American psyche.
Add to all this the proliferation of the Hollywood mentality since WWII, and you have an entire country that places its value system on physical looks. Before Hollywood the average small town American dated/married within his own geographical area, and not many people even knew what a Hollywood type glamour girl or glamour man looked like. After WWII the whole country went Hollywood, and everybody aspires to look like Ben Affleck, Tom Cruise , or Jennifer Garner , Jennifer Aniston or Loni Anderson., or date/marry people like them.
After WWII the U.S. became the sole surviving superpower, militarily, economically and most importantly, culturally. American movies dominated the whole world, and American values influences young people around the globe to this very day. Of course it's not all bad, but certainly there are a lot of negatives.
The negative part is primarily this : If you are physically different from the Hollywood Joe or Jill, then you are automatically placed on a lower platform.
I've lived in the U.S. since I was 17, almost 40 years ago, and I've seen with my own eyes the number of CCB's going after WM. The average Asian American man in this country is totally ignored and marginalized, and the venom is greatest from the Asian female.
But if you watch TV programs from Taiwan and China, you get an entirely different feeling. The Chinese are free to be themselves, talk about their history and cultural with pride, with normalcy. On Chinese TV the people are relaxed about being themselves. Even the "nerdy" guys on Chinese TV are funny, accepted, and treated normally. Not so on American TV or American literature.
Whenever I watch an American TV program about Asians I cringe. In America we get laughed at physically. They make fun of Asians for having slit eyes, or for talking loud, or driving badly, for having stubby legs, for looking effeminate. When Americans try to have something positive to say about Asians, it's always about Asian women.
On one program they were interviewing this Asian woman who lamented that her parents wanted her to marry a good man who was intellectual, mature, well-established, responsible, etc. She said on TV, "I asked them (parents), where am I going to find an Asian man like that ?"
Huh ? Have you looked at the number of professional Asian men around the country ? I see good Asian men everywhere, in the churches, in Buddhist temples, in grocery stories, in restaurants, many of them working 10 or 12 hour days to feed their families. And this Asian woman can't "find" someone that'll meet her and her parents' standards ?
Of course, if she has her heart set on a 6 foot 4 jock with a PhD in physics, who runs the marathon on weekends, then maybe it's hard to find an Asian man to fit the mold. But then, how many white men also fit that mold ?
What I'm saying here is that white people have a lot of influence. Post WWII they had economic and military power. When the Asian nations started standing up, they the whites started using their Hollywood power, and using that as a yardstick, of course Asian people (men) don't measure up.
Is it a conspiracy ? Not an open conspiracy, but you can bet your bottom dollar that white people will always find a way to be on top.
If you maroon a mixture of Asian people on a deserted island, I can bet you that most of the work will be done by Asians. They will dig the water wells, cut the trees, build the cabins; and the white people will find a way to be become boss, pick the best sites for their lodging, and act like they are the upper crust, the kings and queens, and the Asians will be the servant men, the servant girls, the farmers and labourers.
Just read "Mutiny on the Bounty" and you will get the picture.
Watching Chinese TV programs on China I am amazed at the depth and accomplishments of my forefathers. I have confidence that China, and the Asian people in general, will rise again, and be comfortable in their own skins.
The role of Asian Americans of Asians living in the west is to encourage our brethren in China to be the best they can , develop their own culture, and to be aware of the white man's traps. Yesterday it was Opium, today Hollywood. Don't fall into that trap !