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I have been dating my Chinese gf for a while (2nd time dating, she broke up with me earlier for my mistakes). We are not at the making love stage yet....
ANyway I sent a message to her and she made a reply. She is always mad at me for not trying to understand Chinese culture. So, can you all please explain why my message was wrong? Please ONLY answer if you are Chinese as I do not want my gf bashed. Feel free to bash me as much as you want. I am ONLY wanting to understand Chinese culture as it seems quite different to my American culture. BEcause where I am from people who love each other support each other when tragedy falls upon them. So, I was quite sad to get her response and to know I was sooo wrong. So, please educate me.
My younger brother has been sick for weeks and has had 3 blood transfusions already - replaced 6 units of blood.
I sent the following message...
"HONEY!!!!!!! The tests came back on my brother. He has acute leukemia, blood cancer!!! They are starting him on chemotheropy. I am sooo sad right now. I need you in my arms! I need you honey. Can you please please spend all weekend with me? Please take enough clothes with you to work so you can stay with me till Monday morning at least??? Even if you require no sex (but I wish I could make love to you 1000 times), I need you please? Please don't get mad at me. I just love you soooo much and I need you with me. Hope you understand. I know you live with your mother and might be afraid she will get suspicious, but honey, I do hope to marry you, so hope it will make her happy soon. .... Love you honey! Wish you will think about coming all weekend (or just staying forever). Love you"
She sent the following message....
" am very sorry for your brother when I saw the message at this morning that you sent at middle night...
the only thing that i can do is:
I know you are very sad, so I am very sorry, and hope you can be strong for holding yourself from it....
I will search in the internet about chinese medicine against blood cancer (sometimes chinese medicine is more useful and effective than west medicine), and let you know and try to find it with you together and mail it to your brother;
But I wouldn't follow your words and do what you want -- spend night at your place; for what? what I should do there? what you are asking is like what I saw in the movie, but I am not actor/ player...
I am not mad, you are mad!
you are already 37 years old, so please act as adult, mature man!"
So, again, please answer ONLY if you are Chinese. I do not want my gf bashed by Americans. So, please tell me why what I asked for was wrong. I DO want to learn Chinese culture, I DO want her to love me. So, please help me.