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Reply #43 Aikun9372's post
Thanx for your support!!!!!!! Thank u sooooooooo much.. as I have no support from my family that includes my siblings.. *sigh* It provides me strength definately when I'm happy with my boyfriend. My boyfriend know about my situation with my family and he knew it before starting it too as his parents already told him the "problems dating Chinese". My boyfriend gives me support whenever I cannot take anymore of my parents "unreasonable" reasons for why I should not date a black person. They gave me alot of reasons but in the end those reasons are not the most important, the most important is just because he is black. My boyfriend said I can dump him if it makes my family relation better but he'll never give up in being with me. Some of the reasons such as my dad doesnt want me to date during studying at university because it may affect my grades...etc my boyfriend agrees but because we are not "blindly" loving each other, we do help each other in our study rather than spending all the time cuddling ..etc if you know what I mean. To be honest I really feel very guilty in the way my family treats him, not that my family ever wanted to directly get to know him, all they did was to rather not talk about him.|
It is hard to have both side happy, I just think may be if I dont tell them wot is actually going on, then they will b less troubled.
Sometimes I feel crushed inside this, as i get no backup from my own family, not that dating people is wrong or anything but the way my family treats it is like I've done the most terrible thing on Earth that it'll be a shame for the whole nation. Like you said, I'm in the middle of all of this, my boyfriend understands but my parents dont.
My parents even say I'm like poisoned by him.
May be time will let them think and learn that not everything is wot you wish, the same goes to me but I will not give up because there is nothing wrong dating my boyfriend. He treats me well, polite to my parents(even though scared of them) and is not a bad guy. He is now learning cantonese so that one day he can communicate with them in the language my parents grow up in hoping that will improve the situation a little.
Isnt that wot parents want? A guy that treats your daughter well? Rather than whether he is of a different race?
I really appreciate your support, anyway did your relationships with the Chinese girls to be of a similar situation?