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What about from the other angle? |
I'm a black girl studying Chinese and spent an entire year out there being ignored by the guys. Before I went there, I really didn't care what race the guy was that I'd go out with, but I must admit, I'd never been out with a Chinese or other kind of Asian before.
I got there and before the idea of going out with one could even enter my head, I was told by a myriad of Chinese people about how even if I wanted one, I couldn't get a Chinese boyfriend because "black people are ugly". And that was the main message I was getting from mostly everybody. I was told on numerous occasions (and these were meant to be compliments) that I was "pretty, despite being black" - when I pursued the matter, I was told the only difference would be the colour of my skin.
Even a lecturer from my university in London (who'd been living here for most of her life) told me that she thought "Chinese was too hard for black people to learn".
To tell the truth, many of my (white, mainly Russian - to counter the example of that Russian person who was here before) came back from China looking down on the Chinese people for that simple reason. To many people I know, it represents a small-mindedness that is thought only to belong to uncultured, uncivilised people. So while many (Chinese and other races of people) look down on black people, an increasing number of (black and other races of people) are looking down on them for the exact same reason.
Me, I try not to look down on anybody. My "second mother" is a Malaysian-Chinese lady here in London and the majority of my closest and oldest friends are Oriental (Japanese and Chinese from the mainland and Hong Kong) including guys. I also have a half-sister whose mother is Chinese and I was born and partly-raised in Trinidad and Tobago, where interracial dating and marriage is quite commonplace (not saying there aren't racial tensions, but no-one thinks it in any way weird to have a half-Oriental sister). My grandmother on my Dad's side was South Indian and my great-grandmother on my Mum's side was native-Caribbean. So even though I've come out red-skinned, of course I'm still classed as black (and proud to be so): and having all these different ethnic influences on my childhood has really made me quite unable to comprehend the attitudes I was receiving in China and here.
BUT, after that experience in China, I have decided to give up on Oriental guys in general. Not because they wouldn't make good boyfriends, but because if I did, I feel I'd just be wasting my time. It seems that Oriental girls with black guys is possible (if not exactly welcomed by the girls' parents) but Oriental guys with black girls? I'll believe it when I see it!
Another thing I'd like to add is that there is a general consensus among "foreign" girls who've spent time in Asia (especially China) that Korean guys are HOT. Yes, black, white and indifferent (as my mother always says), we all seem to develop a "thing" for the Hallyu. Sorry Chinese dudes...
Dunno what exactly I'm trying to say here: I guess I just wanted to put my story out there.