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#49, thanks a lot. I find your answer the most thoughtful. I asked him about that and he said his wage is average in there. He doesn't seem to think it's a problem at all. And this makes the situation harder.
I think pastorbobs answer is only thoughful on your behalf. However, he does not take much consideration toward your partners situation. He wants to be practical yet his expectation along with yours of life is not aligned with your boyfriends current status (considering his wage is 'average' not the best but not the worst either)
I have been with him for two years. He's 25 years old. Everything seems good. He looks handsome and he's absolutely a good and caring lover.
I do not think you should underestimate him because first he is your lover. Therefore, he is your star and needs you to provide him confidence and support as he does the same to you. Granted, he is 25 years old, if you were near sighted or myopic with your future together then you cannot see the great potential in that. Now back to being practical, at 25 years of age you cannot expect him to be some sort of large manager, executive nor VP of some company. He has to work his way up from the bottom of the ladder just like the majority of the people.
When I was in france, I always had to depend on my boyfriend as I could do nothing.
I dont see how you can change that since from what I remember, you make 0 and do not have a job even in China.
Why should I be a small coward just for being unable to speak french, when I can be a self-surviving, charming, intelligent woman in China?
This should be your main concern, because the cultural differences in France and the fact that you cannot speak the language..
Anyway, I think I will tell him that I want him to change another job with higher salary.
Wait a minute, I thought your a practical person? Mind you, you cannot just have him change a job with a higher salary like changing clothing. He needs the proper qualifications and credentials to be able to get jobs with higher position and of course higher wages. (I do not know his qualifications so I really cannot fully comment on that but merely give an advice)