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Post time 2006-6-12 01:28:54 |Display all floors

Reply #49 spiritrace's post

What concerns me is the lack of humanity with some of our posters....


For Goodness' sake, how can one hurt from flashbacks?  What more, your case is an Oddity or we would all have to agree with paedophiles and sex offenders that their crimes are justified.

The only person who is really "lack of humanity" is no other than your grandmother if you want to find someone to point a finger at.  



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Post time 2006-6-12 01:50:31 |Display all floors

Reply #47 szl8179's post

I can’t understand what you mean. Who are your enemies? I have not judged you yet, but I don’t like the way of your thinking. You rely on knowledge which gained from China to make judgement to things which happened in the other countries with different culture background. What is more, it seems you lack of common sense.


Szl,

First, I will explain what I mean.  You are not my enemy and this should be plain from what I wrote or at least I thought so.

The sentence, No accurate thinker will judge another person by what his enemies say about him is a cryptic or another way of saying one should not believe what people say too easily .

The word “enemies” is chosen to contrast “accurate thinker” and is meant to elucidate.  You can’t balance a scale by tilting it one side and not the other.

Btw, I am not a Mainland Chinese.


Do you have any idea what is social worker? What are their jobs involved? As sex education is not only biological knowledge of sex, it involves social control and moral values of the culture. Sometimes, parents can’t provide such support, as the teenager feel uncomfortable with talking person to person. What is more, they can learn the lesson from their peers who do group discussion with them. Such circumstance only can find from class-room of sex education expert.


I know what a social worker is.  A friend of mine used to work as a social worker and she often worked at odd and very long hours.  When we were resting, she would be working.  She would often tail delinquent girls to counsel them, or broken families, some other odd stuff, etc.  I will sum up a social worker, but maybe not quite accurately, as one who helps “displaced” people back to society.

I agree with you that sex education is more than biology and we probably could learn about sex from many sources, including watching pornographic films as some proudly said so.  

The problem is that sex is about intimacy and where young people are concerned, I feel it should be handled with care (at least responsibly) and taught by people who are qualified (and/or from sources which are reliable) and can be trusted to provide accurate information, mature and have the interest of their charges at heart.  This is important to prevent abuses and exploitation of the young and innocent.

You can have social workers (who deal with teenage problems) to teach but it will not be as effective as having doctors and nurses who are expertise in the fields of gynaecology and obstetrics to provide accurate information and proper guidance.  In times of trouble, be it abuses and crimes involving sex, it is always the expert knowledge of doctors that is most sought after.  

Doctors and nurses are also humans.  They have gone through what we go through.  I talk a lot to my doctor whenever I see her and not necessarily over things concerning my immediate discomfort.

The reasons why we do not have many doctors (especially) and nurses to teach sex education in schools are manifolds.  One of the reasons being teaching is not their primary obligation as doctors and nurses.  The shortage of doctors and nurses (even in hospitals) is the other and contributing to the main bulk of the reasons why they are so hard to come by.  Then, of course, the pecuniary rewards from a teaching profession are simply insufficient.  Further, sex education is not something that can be taught or learned within a short span, like a pure science or any classroom subject.  We all experience sexual awareness (our physical development aside) at different stages, some earlier and some later.

Have you read books about sex written by doctors?  Well, that is one good source which teenagers and youths (even adult) can benefit from; perhaps, a doctor’s contribution to sex education.

Finally, when you involve social workers in teens’ sex education, there is the telling sign that something has gone out of control or about to.

"Solving” teens’ sexual problems (social control or whatever you call it) should not be the primary aim of sex education.  Sex education should be to bring awareness to teenagers what it means going through the puberty stage, how to cope with the changes, how to relate to the opposite sex, how to deal when approached inappropriately, when and how to say yes or no, the rights and wrongs about engaging in sex at their age; the responsibilities and consequences (pregnancies and STDs).

It should be to teach that sex is for adults; there are consequences in a sexual activity and, even as adults, one must learn to take responsibility.  Dumping the girl after she is pregnant or forcing her to have an abortion is not only immoral but cruel.  Likewise, one can’t have a happy and lasting marriage if it is the result of an unplanned pregnancy.  

Therefore, it is WRONG to teach that teens should have sex (even sex between teens).  It is WRONG, therefore, to offer condoms and contraceptive pills to teens so that they can have “safe” sex.   That would only promote SELFISHNESS.

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Ps: I have to qualify that not all doctors are suitable to teach sex education.  There are good doctors as there are bad doctors.  Some are crooks and will go all way out to make money.  I choose my books carefully and I read intelligently.
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Post time 2006-6-12 01:56:14 |Display all floors

As to

what is the suitable age to teach sex education?

I say at the age of 12, the puberty age of most youths, would be the best as that is when they most needed it (sex education).


Btw, to the one who thinks he/she has learned "sex" from pornography ...

That is not sex education.  That is sex EXPLOITATION you have watched.


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Post time 2006-6-12 02:08:18 |Display all floors
The so called 'innocent' girls in university that I meet at the clubs or cafe seem to dance with two left feet when it comes to sex. I have made all of them very satisfied, skillful (from acts I learned through porn and experience) and I do not think its exploitation but rather liberation for them.

They all have thanked me and that puts a greater smile to my face~

Thank you Whampoa for stating the crisis here which gave me this great inspiration to carry on a liberation brigade or crusade if you will.
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Post time 2006-6-12 02:29:04 |Display all floors

Reply #53 eyeofstorm's post

The so called 'innocent' girls in university that I meet at the clubs or cafe seem to dance with two left feet when it comes to sex. I have made all of them very satisfied, skillful (from acts I learned through porn and experience) and I do not think its exploitation but rather liberation for them.

They all have thanked me and that puts a greater smile to my face~

Thank you Whampoa for stating the crisis here which gave me this great inspiration to carry on a liberation brigade or crusade if you will.


My question is if the girls are pregnant with your babies, what will you do?  Marry them, dump them or let them bear the whole responsibility?

If you have AIDS or are infected with STDs, what would happen to them and who is going to help them?  I am sure you won't be honest with them.

I do not know if the girls are innocent or not and what proper guidance have they been given about sex other than what is involved in a sexual intercourse?  The girls could be misguided and they could regret what they did when they know the kind of jerk you foreigners are.

We can't say that the act is the end (liberation and what not you call that).  Studies have shown many teenagers have regretted what they did and wished they had waited.  

That is why sex education is important and I have never objected to it.  Like I have never objected to anyone engaging in sex if they come with full knowledge and will take responsibility, and have that capacity to take the consequences.  

If you can't, then you should not do it.  Be responsible people and that's my message to the Chinese, especially, the young ones.

Last but not least, do you think I believe you and can trust what you say?  You guys have been known to be great LIAR, twist and turn.  UNTRUSTWORTHY for sure.



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[ Last edited by whampoa at 2006-6-12 02:35 AM ]
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Post time 2006-6-12 02:40:50 |Display all floors
Don't you worry about safety, I was actually the one promoting advocating safe sex unlike some of the naive and pristine university broads. I am highly confident none of them will be regretting anything considering we all ended in a  happy and mutual note. The girls are not exactly uninformed per se, they were under academic pressure and used me just as much as I used them. Last but not least, I could care less if you think I lied to you, I was merely thanking you remember.
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Post time 2006-6-12 02:53:45 |Display all floors

Reply #55 eyeofstorm's post

I couldn't careless about your thanks ...

I have said I write for the Chinese, not for you foreigners.  Who cares about your quarter of Americans are STDs infected. [Like on 9/11, I have said the Americans are alright no matter what ]

I write so that the Chinese can learn about foreigners and see the truth about you westerners, white men/women.  They are all the same, twist and turn.  Untrustworthy.

To this day, after more than 100 years as a colony under the British rule, the Hongkongers still call you guys/gals gweilos, gweipos.

We are not stupid, just bringing out the truths about you for good laughs and taunts.  Bashing you up is pretty easy.

Nice serving those ladies, are you some kind of drakes by any chance?


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[ Last edited by whampoa at 2006-6-12 02:55 AM ]
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