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I can’t understand what you mean. Who are your enemies? I have not judged you yet, but I don’t like the way of your thinking. You rely on knowledge which gained from China to make judgement to things which happened in the other countries with different culture background. What is more, it seems you lack of common sense.
First, I will explain what I mean. You are not my enemy and this should be plain from what I wrote or at least I thought so.
The sentence, No accurate thinker will judge another person by what his enemies say about him is a cryptic or another way of saying one should not believe what people say too easily .
The word “enemies” is chosen to contrast “accurate thinker” and is meant to elucidate. You can’t balance a scale by tilting it one side and not the other.
Btw, I am not a Mainland Chinese.
Do you have any idea what is social worker? What are their jobs involved? As sex education is not only biological knowledge of sex, it involves social control and moral values of the culture. Sometimes, parents can’t provide such support, as the teenager feel uncomfortable with talking person to person. What is more, they can learn the lesson from their peers who do group discussion with them. Such circumstance only can find from class-room of sex education expert.
I know what a social worker is. A friend of mine used to work as a social worker and she often worked at odd and very long hours. When we were resting, she would be working. She would often tail delinquent girls to counsel them, or broken families, some other odd stuff, etc. I will sum up a social worker, but maybe not quite accurately, as one who helps “displaced” people back to society.
I agree with you that sex education is more than biology and we probably could learn about sex from many sources, including watching pornographic films as some proudly said so.
The problem is that sex is about intimacy and where young people are concerned, I feel it should be handled with care (at least responsibly) and taught by people who are qualified (and/or from sources which are reliable) and can be trusted to provide accurate information, mature and have the interest of their charges at heart. This is important to prevent abuses and exploitation of the young and innocent.
You can have social workers (who deal with teenage problems) to teach but it will not be as effective as having doctors and nurses who are expertise in the fields of gynaecology and obstetrics to provide accurate information and proper guidance. In times of trouble, be it abuses and crimes involving sex, it is always the expert knowledge of doctors that is most sought after.
Doctors and nurses are also humans. They have gone through what we go through. I talk a lot to my doctor whenever I see her and not necessarily over things concerning my immediate discomfort.
The reasons why we do not have many doctors (especially) and nurses to teach sex education in schools are manifolds. One of the reasons being teaching is not their primary obligation as doctors and nurses. The shortage of doctors and nurses (even in hospitals) is the other and contributing to the main bulk of the reasons why they are so hard to come by. Then, of course, the pecuniary rewards from a teaching profession are simply insufficient. Further, sex education is not something that can be taught or learned within a short span, like a pure science or any classroom subject. We all experience sexual awareness (our physical development aside) at different stages, some earlier and some later.
Have you read books about sex written by doctors? Well, that is one good source which teenagers and youths (even adult) can benefit from; perhaps, a doctor’s contribution to sex education.
Finally, when you involve social workers in teens’ sex education, there is the telling sign that something has gone out of control or about to.
"Solving” teens’ sexual problems (social control or whatever you call it) should not be the primary aim of sex education. Sex education should be to bring awareness to teenagers what it means going through the puberty stage, how to cope with the changes, how to relate to the opposite sex, how to deal when approached inappropriately, when and how to say yes or no, the rights and wrongs about engaging in sex at their age; the responsibilities and consequences (pregnancies and STDs).
It should be to teach that sex is for adults; there are consequences in a sexual activity and, even as adults, one must learn to take responsibility. Dumping the girl after she is pregnant or forcing her to have an abortion is not only immoral but cruel. Likewise, one can’t have a happy and lasting marriage if it is the result of an unplanned pregnancy.
Therefore, it is WRONG to teach that teens should have sex (even sex between teens). It is WRONG, therefore, to offer condoms and contraceptive pills to teens so that they can have “safe” sex. That would only promote SELFISHNESS.
Ps: I have to qualify that not all doctors are suitable to teach sex education. There are good doctors as there are bad doctors. Some are crooks and will go all way out to make money. I choose my books carefully and I read intelligently.