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#1 - let's give spiritrace the benefit of the doubt until we hear what he means by "sexual experience". He may mean peeking into a girl's pants while she peeked into his, or something mildly curious, or he may mean more, we don't know.
#2 - When I was in the 4th grade, they had us girls on one side of the gym watching a movie about getting our periods, and the boys were on the other side (with a wall in between) learning something mysterious. I later discovered they may have been learning about "wet dreams" and what that stuff is that comes out of their penis that isn't pee.
#3 - I think it's good that schools give some sex ed, but I think it should have already been done by that time at home.
Here's how I did it little by little, no surprises later in life, just answer their natural questions as they come up (my son is now a teenager):
Toddler age - "Mommy where do babies come from?" "From the mommies belly" is usually enough, or explain there's a special place inside mommy, or whatever. They don't need much detail. None of this mythology crud about storks or fairies please....
Age 4-5 - "But if the baby is in the belly, doesn't the food land on his head?" Then you explain there's a special place inside, etc.
"How does it come out?" You could say there's a special hole called the vagina down near where the mommy pees that is only used for babies.
Age 5-6 - "How does the baby get in the mommy?" This is the tricky part, but you must give them some kind of true idea - That there are little tiny eggs inside every woman, etc. How is the daddy involved? You can simply say "he plants a special kind of seed in mommy" or you can tell them what "making love" means, that mommy & daddy kiss a lot, and touch each other in special ways that make a baby.... if they ask what ways, tell them they'll find out when they're older and fall in love. (don't get picky, we're talking about a 5 yr old here!)
Age 8+ - They are old enough to know by now that the man's penis is involved. If you don't tell them the truth, they will get ideas from other kids, movies, etc. You don't want them getting wrong ideas, so just be honest with them now.
As they are ready for more detail...
You could also say things like - the seeds are inside the man and he has to put them inside the woman... how does he do that? They come out of his penis.... so he has to put his penis in her vagina, so be careful and don't put your penis near any girl's vaginas or you could make a baby by accident... haha.... I probably said something like that to my son when he was old enough.
Then you must tell them they can get diseases from sex, and that they must use a condom EVERY time unless they want a baby and they know the other person has no diseases.... or whatever you want to say.
I'm sorry, was any of this a shock to any of the adults here?