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Post time 2006-2-20 20:15:50 |Display all floors
I am currently in Japan, but I have fallen in love with a beautiful woman from China. We have only been together for a short time, but she is unbelievable.  She is intelligent, kind, caring, sweet, shy, and very beautiful. She has so many good qualities... It seems too good to be true. I have been waiting a long time to find someone that shares many of the same qualities that I do. Anyway, she is visiting her family in China now and will be gone for six weeks. She has already been gone for two weeks, and I miss her so much. My heart is racing just thinking about her now. However, I am so confused. My work contract will finish in just over a year and a half, and her university in just under a year. I am twenty two years old and she is twenty five.  I care about her, and becuase I do, I worry about our future. I have a bachelor of arts and science, advanced TESOL diploma, and an international teacher's license. This is just my first step in my career. Having these qualifications allows me to get a fairly well paying teaching job in Japan, Korea, or China.. All of my plans have changed because of this woman. I can't believe it. I wanted to have fun and explore, but now... (sigh) I would like to say money doesn't matter, but it does. If we were to get married I would want to be able to support her and give her a good life... My current  prospects before meeting her were..

Elementary school specialist in Japan. 22,000 CNY per month
ECC or AEON Japan= 17,000 CNY per month
Internship at Canadian Embassy in Tokyo= ??
Government of Korea English program=  25,000 CNY per month
Royal Canadian Mounted Police= 30,000-35000 CNY per month
CSIS= 30,000 -35,000 per month
Return to university for an additional two years so that I can teach in Canada... -10000 CNY per month

As you can see most of the prospects listed above require a great deal of travelling, except for the last. If I return to university, it would be a difficult few years, but stability would soon follow.

Right now, I feel like I would do anything for her. She can't speak English and I can't speak Chinese, so we communicate in Japanese. I can usually get my message across, although it can be difficult it times.
It is possible that I could study Mandarin in China. It is also possible she can study English while I study at unviersity in Canada. I guess I will see what happens in the next year. I just needed to share me feelings, thoughts and ideas. I would appreciate any comments or advice. Thank  you.

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Post time 2006-2-20 21:12:45 |Display all floors
This is understandable.

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Post time 2006-2-20 21:51:22 |Display all floors


This is lovely, beautiful... well, all the nice words.
Good luck!
Boating on the Houhai River...在后海泛舟...

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Post time 2006-2-20 22:48:28 |Display all floors

Love can be a miracle, if you both believe

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Post time 2006-2-20 22:52:20 |Display all floors
Love is cruel!! Cos reality is cruel!!
I don't know if I like you or love you, want you or need you, all I know is I love the feeling I get when I'm near you.

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Post time 2006-2-21 02:40:44 |Display all floors
Love is the cruelest feeling in the world hurts more than any injury you can receive.

I am going through a similar thing to you I am currently in England and care for someone very much but not sure whether it is going to work out.  Since leaving her only a week ago I feel that everything has changed.  Now reality has started to hit home.  Not that that is going to stop me going to china because I have made that decsion whether this works out or not.  With her the expreince would be so much better though.

i used to float through life not really knowing where I wanted to end up but now my life has more focus and I want to achieve so much more.  This girl has inspired me and if this is what I take from the time we spent together then as much as it hurts I am glad it happened and would do it all over again.

I am hurting right now because we are not communicating she needs time to sort out her feelingsbut when she is ready I am here.  Why is life never easy?

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Post time 2006-2-21 05:24:58 |Display all floors

Reply: dryrain

Been there, done that ... Now working on the second phase!

Reality is a tough cookie. Love is a life-changer sometimes but also you have to think more about the long-term future before you give something up or adjust your life too much.

I spent 6 months last year in China with my girlfriend and I also wanted to experience life in China and see whether it suited me. To be honest, I need to be in the UK for various reasons and so I am back here working out some fresh plans. I am lucky that my work gave me the freedom to do what I wanted for most of last year.

I like China, I enjoyed living there but I have a better quality of life here (that is not a complaint against China) so this is where my life will be for now.

In Aug last year my girlfriend came over to the UK. Getting her a visa was not an easy process but with lots of preparation we actually found the process less painful than it could have been. So, with one visa under her belt (so to speak) our options have opened up.

Life is certainly not easy but it is fun and I intend to enjoy it whilst I am still young enough The original poster here is only 22!! Plenty of time to enjoy life and make the right choice.

I will meet up with my girlfriend again in April in Singapore - mix of work and fun - and this time I think we need to make big plans ...!!
Take me down to the paradise city, where the grass is green and the girls are pretty

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