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Brown shoes and foreign girls
Carrie, how spot on your suggestions to exactly everything foreign girls don't appreciate about Chinese (and other nationalities') 'behaviour'. Especially the long nails and brown shoes (no, it simply can't be justified!) but might I add IN CAPITAL LETTERS - spitting! What is up with that?|
I spent a long time considering what actually made me feel so unattrackted to the Chinese population, only recently realizing it was not what I found unattrackting about Chinese people but more about myself, that I avoided. Simply being taller, fatter, better at table soccer and having a more faul language than my potential Chinese counterpart would make me feel COMPLETELY alien - and that in a world where I finally learned to live with the fact that I can't go on a bike ride without at least one bus having nose-marks on the windows from all the people who wanted to stare, the grandmothers whispering to the small children 'kankan' and every taxi drivers' impolite comments on my bad pronounciation (she can't even say her address!).
It took a long time learning enough Chinese to regain at least part of my independence ('can you please write the address for me', 'how do I say 'milk'', 'You just order for both of us' etc.) just as it seems it took forever to appreciate the 'funny' cultural differences but may I say!! - my love for this country in growing for each day and finally the same is true for it's population of the opposite sex.
Obvious from above I am a foreign girl, one of those who's Chinese friends are always telling her to 'get a Chinese boyfriend', simply for convenience. Again - what is up with that? 'Why' I say, only to get the response 'a Chinese boy will take care of you. Pay your bills and stuff'. AHA! How great news for someone who came to China as part of her career plans, has a 'good' apartment, all bills payd by her company and probably earns about 10 times the average salary of the guy she would date. Why would we want a Chinese boy for that?
While I can agree one often sees 'white guys' and Chinese girls together in the streets and not the opposite I would disagree with everything I am to the fact that we don't want to. You just don't give us a chance, stay away because you're afraid, I guess, don't wanna talk to us etc. I have 'tasted Chinese' and liked it, but not for all the reasons people tell me to.