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" By the way , can a mother's temper reflect her daughter's qualities and behaviors ? "|
100% or better still make that 100000000000000000 % just to be sure.
If the father of that girl, the mothers husband, is treated like dirt or worse, so for sure, will you be treated the same.
If the mother is nasty or has a mean streak, so too will the daughter.
I had a son get married only two weeks ago, he is 24 and I interfered with the first time he tried to get married, he was 20 but this time my older sister said to me, do not interfere, no matter how much you love him, because it is his life to live not mine and as much as I would prefer to live his life for him, as all the mistakes I have already made, I can not and in the end I did not, I had to surrender and let him go, the point being, that I know in 3 to 7 years, I will have to be there to save him from the misery of divorce and sure divorce is " NOT CERTAIN " but it is highly " probable."
Fathers who love their son's too much, suffer terribly.
Fathers, who have lived long and interesting lives, who love their son's too much, suffer a fate far worse than any torture.
With women, they change Robert, they are one way when they are 16-19 then they change again around 24-27 and then again at about 32-34, the point is, what you see with your eyes in that 18-20 year old now, is
" NOT " what you will get and have as your wife at 35 years old, she will change and she will change much, but you will change little, you will remain much as you are now, until the day you die, situations and circumstances may influence your nature, more hard or more soft, but the basics of Robert will not change, but " ABSOLUTELY SHE WILL ".
Robert, you say above, men are not perfect, well yes, that is 100% correct and that is why trouble comes, men are very imperfect, men have much wrong with them, you need a women, who knows you are faulty and loved you for it, you need a woman who understands you are not perfect, and that you can and will make mistakes, she after all should be your friend, over and above all other things and friends will accept you with the faults, no matter how many and sorry to say, but the more strong the man, the more good the man, the more faults he will have.
Men are very faulty beings, be sure of it and some women want or need or desire to " CORRECT " the faults in a man, this is a grave and fatal error, terminal for a marriage, as men who have faults, remain that way until they die, the woman, must love you with YOUR FAULTS, because they are never going to go away.
If your father loves you dearly, forgive him for his actions as he tries to protect you from things that will hurt you, until he closes his eyes and waves his hands and let's you go.........poor fathers.
Anyway, Robert, as the girl is most probably 19-21 she will change again ( two times ) each time worse than the first time, this is why you want the softest nature, the more easy going girl, the one who forgives all your imperfections the most, DO NOT MARRY THE ONE YOU LOVE, love is not enough Robert, DO NOT MARRY FOR PASSION, passion is not enough Robert, it will cool and then will become " ICE " pure " ICE ".
Love also turns to hate Robert, they are close relatives.
This is YOUR life you are thinking about here Robert.
You can be rich and you can lose the money and you can win it back again, over and over, you can win 1000 times, you can be king many times, you can fail at school and still end up the richest man China ever saw, but one bad marriage can and most often will destroy you, if you survive a bad marriage, you will be hurt and be bitter and forever you will be more cold when maybe you would have been warm.
Women can destroy you Robert, men can only injure you, slightly.
You are very lucky and most fortunate she is a Chinese girl, they have more quality and are more tough and sturdy and reliable, but just the same they will do things that females do.
So, you want the most soft one and you need to verify you are not being cheated by a study of the mother, check your sources, verify, is she just making me think she is COOL, CALM and WARM, or is she about to explode and destroy my whole life.
So, Robert, choose the girl with the mother who is most nice, if both mothers are horrid, choose neither, no matter what.
Choose the girl with the softest and most calm nature, calculate the two future changes and can you live with that and if you calculate that you can, fine, choose her, and maybe God decides to give you an even break and you stay married for the rest of your life, because if she is cool and calm, a nice nature, you are after all friends and you can adjust a little here and a little there and you will get by.
99% of Chinese woman are loyal and true, so that is not an issue.
Her nature, that is the issue, switch off the love and the passion and close your eyes to how pretty or soft she is and look deeper, look deep inside, would you like her, if you met her in the street, would you like to be stuck on an Island with her as the only other person, does she do things when she eats that drive you nuts, or things similar to that, because if she does, it will MAGNIFY x 1000 times in a marriage.
There is more Robert, much more, but that is enough to satisfy me, that because you looked to be a nice guy, you needed to be kept as safe as possible and I feel I have given you good and reliable and most of all, tried and verified and checked advice, you take care and remember only poor men are good men, so the more rich you become, consider her, whoever she is and remember also, that if you are similar ages, she will get older than you faster and you will retain your good looks, so , know that now, going into the relationship.
Remember, if you marry her, she becomes a wife and a mother and the other younger girls will always be more attractive, measure evrything, be fair, she marry's you, so she becomes a mother and a wife, the other girls are single, they will always look better, that is just the way it is.
Good luck Robert and good fortune to you.
Choose with a clear calm head, under no pressure.
Never allow TEARS to make YOU destroy YOUR life.
P.S. If you have GRANDMOTHERS, you could introduce her to them and use that EXTENDED extra verification, if she is trouble, 50% chance one of the Grandmothers will see it.
Have a good life Robert
Reading your first thread post again, I would say the first girl, you said she is gentle and considerate you said the second one gets angry, she will only get more angry, sorry Robert if I give too much advice.
Your thread is: Can you love 2 girls, well yes, that is the problem, you can love 4,000 all just as much as the other, but marriage, you can only marry one, that is where the " HOOK " is.
One girl is far away, probably very loyal to you, missing you, the other one is close at hand, instant warmth, step back Robert.
Maybe I should give you a 5 year loan interest free to go visit the first one.
Maybe that would give you an instant answer
I also hope like hell that you did not tell ONE about TWO or TWO about ONE, because if you told TWO about ONE that explains many things and DO NOT TELL ONE ABOUT TWO, ever.
You want a 5 year interest free loan to visit number one.