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This post was edited by SherrySongSHSF at 2017-6-16 10:55|
As Father's Day approaches, some of my friends begin to talk about what gift they are going to buy for their dad in WeChat groups, and my friend Chen is especially active in the discussion.
"I have to get him a real good gift this year since I didn't celebrate the day with my dad for years," Chen said. It was when his mother reminded him about the coming date that he realized that he had ignored Father's Day for a long time.
Chen's situation echoes among many of my friends. Compared with Mother's Day when almost everyone is buying carnations for his or her beloved mom, it appears to be so much quieter when it comes to the day for dad. It seems that fathers don't care for stuff like festivals or memorial days that much, but is that true?
"I didn't realize that my dad felt jealous of my mom because she receives flowers and gifts from me at Mother's Day almost every year but he gets nothing, not even a card or a greeting on his day," Chen said. Chen has been working in Beijing for years and can only return to his hometown to get together with his parents twice a year. Chen understands that his father misses him and wants to get more attention from his son. I feel a bit bitter when listening to Chen and cannot help but think of my own father.
I think, to some extent, celebrating Father's Day is more necessary and meaningful than Mother's Day because the father is often the one who contributes to the whole family all his life, both economically and spiritually, and is often forgotten by their children. However, our society values motherhood much more and does not put enough weight on fatherhood, which is unfair.
A father's love is deep and unspoken, but that doesn't mean we don't need to speak out our love to him. However, when thinking of Mother's Day, people will immediately think of carnations and chocolate or clothes and handbags, but when it comes to Father's Day, it seems that there is nothing particular or typical to buy or do for them. I understand that the popularity of both Mother's and Father's Day is partially fueled by retailers and online stores, but celebrating the day by giving your father more company and care is needed. It doesn't have to do with expensive gifts or red envelopes, it's the children's gratitude and love shown to fathers that matter.
Moreover, I think fathers, to some extent, need more company than mothers because most of them tend to be more silent and bear the troubles and worries all by themselves. It's hard for them to speak out their real needs and feelings, so we need to care more about them.
Some people say that they are just too busy to remember Father's Day. To be honest, I don't buy it. Living in an Internet era when your life is overload with information every day, you will see relevant info about it weeks before the celebrated day. The true reason is that you don't care about it that much.
So when people ask me what will I buy for my father? I will buy a flight ticket. A pleasant visit will be the best gift. (News from the boredpanda)