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Post time 2015-11-22 11:06:50 |Display all floors
This post was edited by StellaSong at 2015-11-22 11:07

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Recently, the children of two close friends have begun dating. One at age 13. Another at age 12. And it made me realize that we have a pretty wide range of ideas on what age kids should be allowed to start dating and even on what dating means at various ages. So I threw the question out there to the World Wide Web: "At what age did you or will you allow your children to start dating?"

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Post time 2015-11-22 17:37:21 |Display all floors
It seams to young but don't want steer one sex away from opposite sex or can end up poof when older enough

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Post time 2015-11-22 20:06:26 |Display all floors
There is a big difference between boys and girls socialising and 'dating'.
'Dating' implies maturity, responsibility and a certain wisdom that I have seen few young Chinese people in their early '20s exhibit.

I have witnessed university students behaving in a very childish manner towards people of the opposite sex due to poor social skills and emotional immaturity, and because they were prevented from socialising in mixed groups during middle and high school.

As many seem to take their social cues from what they see on TV, online and in the cinema rather than through peer groups, many rush into 'dating' without the emotional equipment to deal appropriately in many social situations.

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Post time 2015-11-26 10:32:35 |Display all floors
At the youngest ages all children play together as friends , relatives and classmates. Then comes a stage when boys play with boys and girls play with girls. They are uncomfortable with the opposite sex. Then early teenage "dating" arises. This is usually an agreement between them to "go out" with each-other.. this means that they agree to talk to each-other! rarely does this last for longer than a few days. A Chinese mother asked me what she should do. She had found a note from a boy in her daughters jacket. It only said, "I like you." The mother asked if her father should be told. I laughed and said to put the note back and forget about it because very soon the situation would go away.   And of course it did.
Girls are strong and mature faster than boys, so I have found that if they are taught and advised about how to behave safely, then at later teenage stages they can have a more lasting relationship with boyfriends (maybe plural) happily and safely.
However, in China thre are great cultural differences in boy girl relationships. many of the behaviours and attitudes seem unhealthy in that attitudes and social communication between the sexes are ignorant or influenced by bad examples in the media. Chinese boys, for example seem to follow the poor behaviours shown on appalling american films and by pop stars showing off for attention.
The later attitudes to marriage in China cause further problems in dating.
English teacher and education adviser. China needs a teaching profession with less fear and more trust and honesty.

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Post time 2015-11-28 19:49:30 |Display all floors
Date need the time and energy, or and the money.

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Post time 2015-11-29 10:36:32 |Display all floors
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