- Registration time
- Last login
- Online time
- 9556 Hour
- Reading permission
AndrewPKU Post time: 2014-12-3 23:07
Again, if you have to "try" to meet the needs of a family, because you are not already "prepared" ...
The problem with waiting until your ready is biology.
The best time to have children (from a biological perspective) is in your twenties. In fact, having children early (with breastfeeding) can even reduce the risk of cancer in women. Our bodies are made to have children in our twenties. Pregnancies, births, recoveries are all easier on us in our twenties than in our thirties. You more likely to get your body back in shape too.
But the way the economy is today, few can really afford to have children in their twenties. The more 'responsible' time (from an economic viewpoint) is in your late thirties. This is problematic for women as
we are born with all the eggs we will ever have. They start to degrade in our thirties. The chances of miscarriage goes up substantially in our mid-thirties as with a whole host of other problems. And you could just wait too long. I know many profession women who are heartbroken because they waited too long and are now can't conceive at all.
And beyond that is the physical energy needed to take care of small children. I had my kids young. I can't imagine going through the endless sleepless nights and still function the next day in my thirties as compared to when I was in my early twenties.
So from a pure biological standpoint, having children early is the best for the most viable and healthy offspring and its easier on our bodies to handle the physical demands of small children.
I also think its easier to be a parent in your twenties because as I age, the more selfish I become. The more I need 'quiet' and the less tolerance I have for all the chaos.
So I don't know. I would love to jump on the bandwagon in condemnation of parents who have children when they are not 'ready', but i think there could be alternate ways to handle this.
My daughter married and had children young also. Me and her father has helped to support the family. Both are currently in college working on their degrees so they can provide their kids with a decent life. I'm amazed at how much they can do - working, going to school, raising the children, etc. We try our best to support them emotionally and financially. We are their 'safety net' and as long as I'm alive, those kids will not go without.