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To make love glow|
In the scabbing, striving, frantic times there are special ways whereby we can bring this matchless gift to maturity.
First love needs time. Perhaps people can fall in love in a moment, but maturity love is like a tree, moving slowly from the seed in the ground to the sheltering splendor of its prime. People need time to deep their affection, to appreciate their difference, to share one another’s joys and grief. So it is sad when divorce come with the small provoking, when parents and children give up one another, when friendship falter at the first injury. We lose a great art-the long love.
Second when we accept the difference of loved one’s, we find it provide the mystery and the wonder of human relationship. It is foolish to expect the perfection. It doesn’t exist. The key is to recognize and enjoy the differences. To make love glow, it needs a climate more exclusive quail-to led go.
Finally we need words to make it real. Without words, the quarrels can’t be resolved; the resentment can’t come to the surface. We lose the power to share the meaning of the lives. The important thing is to acknowledge and express it. If we don’t, we derive of others the knowledge of the love and the joys that comes from expressing it.
The love is not a single art, but a climate in which we live, in life venture in which we are always learning, discovering, glowing. It is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single careless. It is climate to make love glow in people’s hearts.
Xiezelin in Siangtan university on October 21, 2003
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