This post was edited by RosieLux at 2014-10-22 16:55|
Recently, I feel burdened when facing the fact that I have to respectively invite so many people to dinners. As everyone knows, western people will go Dutch while having a meal in a restaurant, while the Chinese don’t go Dutch, they will pay the bill and check out generously. Western people don’t often entertain guests, while the Chinese often invite friend to dinner, and this is a part of so-called Chinese table culture. I really want to say I'm tired of this kind of culture.
Why is there such a difference?
Western people eat for health, while the Chinese eat for friendship. Western people advocate individualism and independence, so they express that respect for each other’s independence by means of going Dutch. The Chinese like making friends, and they value the interpersonal relationship very much. There are lots of folk proverbs in China, such as "Things are easier to handle if you have many friends." As we can see, the position of a friend is so important in the mind of the Chinese. The reason why the Chinese don’t go Dutch is that they don’t want to destroy their friendship. Traditionally, going Dutch is considered stingy in China, which is unfavorable to keep harmonious interpersonal relationship.
Generally speaking, in China, when a person invites you to dinner, he may well pay the bill. The purposes of invitation vary. For example, you do him a favor, he will invite you to dinner in order to express gratitude to you, certainly, he will pay the bill. Then suppose I'm a manager of a company, and you are the manager of another company. I want to talk about the business with you, and I will say: “Let’s go out to dinner together!”. Certainly, I will pay the bill. My purpose is to promote the cooperation between our two companies.
The fact that the Chinese don’t go Dutch and treat someone to dinner may not only be a kind of custom, but also develops into a social gathering means for different purposes, I don't know, maybe it's to repay a favor, or to ask someone to do a favor, and so on so forth.