Readers’ Blog

A hard decision

Popularity 9Viewed 4237 times 2013-6-18 15:22 |System category:Life| decision

In the past few days, I was so busy and always worked over-time,  what's more, the management of my company, a small -sized private Led lighting company, is in a mess, even without management, which make me tired working here. And the boss of this company has no tendency to develop foreign trade, all the orders come from the foreign trade company, so I can learn little here about foreign trade process. All these unpleasant things make me iritable these days, so I decide to leave this company and change a job. My husband works in a big company, where everything is formal and regular, when I first came to this city I sent my resume to his company, but I was refused beacuse the foreign trade department of that company didn't need new person.  Last week I came to his company again, fortunately, their foreign trade department is open to new person,  their leader interviewed me and was satisfied with my performance, but finally they refused me because of my age and the present state, they worried that I will become pregnant in the following one or two years after I enter their company, though I promise to them that I won't. But they are still worried. Because in their department, many female workers are in pregnancy, which is a headache to them. So they are sensitive to this.  Maybe considering that my husband has been worked in the company for three years, the HR department arranged me to another department for interview, I passed the interview finally, but I am hesitating, because the job has little relevance with my major and with the foreign trade. My ideal job is related to foreign trade all the time after my graduation. If I accept this job, that will means that i have to give up my dreamed career. But working in my husband's company is stable and with less pressure, which attract me. I am thinking how to decide these days. Entering my husbang's compmay or find another job related to foreign trade. And actually, I am 26 year's old, I have a plan to have baby in two years, if I enter my husband's company, I can't have baby at least in first one year. So it is really a difficult desision to make. In addition, I am still in charge of much work in my company in present, I am wandering how to resign. I feel a little quilty if I leave so fast. I am struggling about these matters all the time these days. How to make the right decision ?  How I wish someone can make the choice for me.

(Opinions of the writer in this blog don't represent those of China Daily.)


Passing

Eggs

Flowers

Shake hands

Ray
Like 1 Share
8.03K

Report

Comment Comment (23 comments)

Reply Report 晓彬 2013-6-19 12:52
stay in your husband's company!!!!!!!!!
Reply Report lisa.luye 2013-6-19 17:23
Do not worry about the baby thing,u have to focus on the business of  yourself.because u are still very young.
taking 2 or 3years to make your career stably, then you can have your baby.
i have the same experience, now my job is stable,and i have a six month-old  boy.
P.s. I got pregnent when i was 28.
Reply Report ross-chang 2013-6-19 19:34
You have to think about the things in your deep heart, which one is the most important, career or baby, if you thought the career is more important so you find a foreign trade job, I don't think it's a better way to enter your husband's company, If you really want to have a baby in one or two years, I suggest you choose your husband's company, although you can't get the fittest job, but when you are pregnant, you husband can look after you easier. Following what I just said, I believe you can take the correct choice! Best wishes to you and your family!
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-19 20:00
lisa.luye: Do not worry about the baby thing,u have to focus on the business of  yourself.because u are still very young.
taking 2 or 3years to make your career  ...
thanks for your advice. My friends around me suggest that it is better to have a baby as earlier as possible, so I think maybe it is time to consider this, actually, I want to gain enough work experience about foreign trade before I stop my work to have a baby. According to your experience, I think maybe two years' latter is still the proper time to have baby. So in the following two years, I have to do my best to enrich my experience and skills, in case that I won't be able to find a job again after having a baby.
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-19 20:12
ross-chang: You have to think about the things in your deep heart, which one is the most important, career or baby, if you thought the career is more important so ...
thank you ! actually in present, I am not well prepared mentally to have a baby, I still want to gain enough working experience and be skillful in the field of foreign trade. But some friends tell me it is better to have baby in a young age, maybe you know this common sense too. And I am a married woman without a child, so it is difficult for me to find a good job, many company will worry I will get pregnant after enter their company, thus they have to employ someone else again to replace me. So considering this problem, I think maybe I should have a baby, then come out again to continue work, but I also worry that I can't find a job after that, because,until now, I still have little work experience after two year's graduation from school.That's why I am so entangled. Now, I tend to have a baby latter and put work first in the following two year.
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-19 20:15
晓彬: stay in your husband's company!!!!!!!!!
If I can enter the foreign trade department of my husband's company, I will not hesitate at all. But the position of the company offered me have no relevance to foreign trade.
Reply Report Ted180 2013-6-19 23:43
Keep negotiating with your husband's company. Be just a sincere as you are on this blog. Even promise not to have baby for 2 years. When baby is born, after 2 yrs return to work. Hire a nanny.
Reply Report symondsez 2013-6-20 09:36
First of all - Be practical - the only dream job is which is comfortable and pay your MORE..... Those who say it is wrong , are lying
Make your choice base on this fact...............
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-20 12:23
Ted180: Keep negotiating with your husband's company. Be just a sincere as you are on this blog. Even promise not to have baby for 2 years. When baby is born, ...
I think it is hard to make them believe me. They will just think I make the promise just because I want to enter their department. So I have already given up the thought to work in their foreign trade department.
Reply Report shimy2005 2013-6-20 12:39
I am a HR in a MNC.
My suggesiton is staying in the current company.   As you mentinoned ,you are now 26 years old,a sensitive period to have a child. Most companies will concern it.  Though you can promise,or even you can sign a contract to promise you will not get pregnant,it won't be effective.  If you get pregnant, the employor can do nothing to you until your baby is one year old.
How long does it take?  Almost 2 years.
On the other hand,if you get pregnant now,in the current company,you will be welcomed by most companies two or three years later.  You know the reasons.
Reply Report 晓彬 2013-6-20 12:45
serina87: If I can enter the foreign trade department of my husband's company, I will not hesitate at all. But the position of the company offered me have no re ...
i don't think that your entering the trade department  of your husband's company will be so useful for you . what matters is that the altitude of your work.  As a old chinese saying, if you are a gold, you will be shining someday. so i think there is no need to hesitate the department. cherish your time with your family!!!
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-21 10:32
晓彬: i don't think that your entering the trade department  of your husband's company will be so useful for you . what matters is that the altitude of your ...
You are right, if one is capable, he can succeed in any filed. I should be confident.
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-21 10:43
shimy2005: I am a HR in a MNC.
My suggesiton is staying in the current company.   As you mentinoned ,you are now 26 years old,a sensitive period to have a child. ...
Thanks! Your suggustion is really practical. But the problem is that I have no interest in staying in my present company. I have lost the patience completely. So I still want to change a company. However,as you know a women in my present state is difficult to find a job.
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-21 10:49
symondsez: First of all - Be practical - the only dream job is which is comfortable and pay your MORE..... Those who say it is wrong , are lying
Make your choice ...
Yeah, but what if the job is comfortable, the salary is low, and the job benefit you little for your self-improvement. I think few people will accept it.
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-21 10:56
Ted180: Keep negotiating with your husband's company. Be just a sincere as you are on this blog. Even promise not to have baby for 2 years. When baby is born, ...
thanks! but I think there is no hope to enter their department by this way.
Reply Report symondsez 2013-6-21 12:12
serina87: Yeah, but what if the job is comfortable, the salary is low, and the job benefit you little for your self-improvement. I think few people will accept  ...
what is your first consideration for a  Job ?.....
1. Comfort
2. Money
3. Self improvement
4. Satisfaction
.
?/
Reply Report serina87 2013-6-21 16:16
symondsez: what is your first consideration for a  Job ?.....
1. Comfort
2. Money
3. Self improvement
4. Satisfaction
.
?/
In present, I will put self-improvement first, then the money in second. Beacuse I still have relatively limited work experience after two years' graduation from university. My first job is a translator, but just for one year, and then I shift to the foreign trade industry, but still less than one year and I learn little in my present company. After all, I want to be proficient in one industry.
Reply Report Eddy123 2013-6-22 11:18
If you put self-improvement first,just find a job that you really want.
Be yourself.
Staying in that company,you may face more difficulties than you can imagine.
Reply Report symondsez 2013-6-23 00:56
serina87: In present, I will put self-improvement first, then the money in second. Beacuse I still have relatively limited work experience after two years' grad ...
Well it is quite difficult for people to understand what they stand for  and to accept is even more difficult .I wish you luck in your journey of self improvement.
In my opinion it is always the salary which is most important factor.
Reply Report Newtown 2013-6-23 13:43
First you swrite : "they worried that I will become pregnant in the following one or two years after I enter their company, though I promise to them that I won't".

Then you write : "And actually, I am 26 year's old, I have a plan to have baby in two years, if I enter my husband's company"

So which one is true ? That you do want to have a baby in two years time or that you can promise that you won't have a baby in two years time ? Why do you think any company should believe you when you say two different things ?

facelist doodle Doodle board

You need to login to comment Login | register


Album

Recent comments

  • a funny experience 2013-9-9 21:30

    funny enough! you can be a comedic writer

  • a restlessness day 2013-9-9 21:26

    good good work, day day up, friend, every one same as you ! but it's socalled life, real life !

Star blogger

Anming

4124

views

Maierwei

2603

views

财神

4580

views

Most commented

BACK TO THE TOP
Contact us:Tel: (86)010-84883548, Email: blog@chinadaily.com.cn
Blog announcement:| We reserve the right, and you authorize us, to use content, including words, photos and videos, which you provide to our blog
platform, for non-profit purposes on China Daily media, comprising newspaper, website, iPad and other social media accounts.