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Nicole’s Philosophy

Popularity 8Viewed 5247 times 2015-11-11 03:59 |Personal category:Growing with my daughter|System category:Life| philosophy, kid

One time when we were watching her favorite cartoon series of the ‘smart tiger’ on my iPad (maybe actually hers in the little mind), the screen suddenly became black because of running out of battery. Then she turned to me, ‘Mama?’ I told her her that the device was out of battery and need to be recharged soon (I was so happy at this indeed). And I further suggested that maybe we could do something else like building castles etc..

 

Obviously she was unsatisfying at my response. She looked at me, thinking for a while, then answered, ‘Ehm, Baba? iPad!’ (it means that Baba has an iPad also.) I asked, ’Did you meant that you want Baba’s iPad?’ She replied ‘Ja, I want’ loudly. And I told her ‘Baba is not at home now. It’s not good to use his iPad without letting him know. Should we tell him first that Nicole wants to borrow his iPad?’This time she got upset at my words by repeating 'Nein, I want it! Now!’(Because she knew that her father normally wouldn’t allow her watch cartoons much) But I didn’t surrender to her unreasonable behavior. I told her, ‘Baba will be unhappy about it. Suppose someone takes yaour favourite car without your permission, won't you also be upset?’ Guess what kind of reply I got from her?! You won’t never imagine. I almost stopped my discipline at her answer, because she replied ‘I like Baba!’ and in the meantime made a big smile on her face.

 

I couldn’t stop laughing, because this is the way she deals with her father exactly. Every time when she annoys him, she apologizes by saying ’sorry’ and adding this beautiful words ‘I like Baba’, and it works perfectly. And now she got the knowledge that it seems a golden tool (Daddy needs to be cautious about the issue!!!). She knows exactly what she wants and what she doesn’t want. She wants the iPad. She wants it NOW. She doesn’t want to tell Baba for he may not let her use it. And she even knows how to deal with him when he is unhappy.

 

She is really a little people with sophisticated philosophy now. And I need to read more research articles on children’s psychology, and to communicate with her in depth to understand her. 

 

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Reply Report KIyer 2015-11-11 12:52
Had me laughing! Kids are very smart, very early on. They are constantly figuring out how the world works.
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2015-11-11 16:11
KIyer: Had me laughing! Kids are very smart, very early on. They are constantly figuring out how the world works.
Yes, that's magical! They learn by themselves from the very limited life experiences and it seems to me that they get the essence. I just can't help sighing to myself she's growing up while I'm getting older!
Reply Report KIyer 2015-11-11 17:07
Judy_Zhu: Yes, that's magical! They learn by themselves from the very limited life experiences and it seems to me that they get the essence. I just can't help s ...
I hope you don't mind my putting this out there. I am doing this from personal experience raising my kids.
Never be afraid to convey what personal values you like your child to develop if you find she is getting a message from her experience that you would rather she be aware of but not take to heart.  It is best to discuss principles and values with a child when there is no immediate issue in which she herself is involved or has a stake. It prepares them for the difficult decisions ahead of actually facing them. It is not possible to get such opportunities beforehand all the time . But try your best when you can with life keeping you busy. Wish you all the best.
Reply Report Dracarys 2015-11-11 19:47
work for kids..
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2015-11-11 20:13
KIyer: I hope you don't mind my putting this out there. I am doing this from personal experience raising my kids.
Never be afraid to convey what personal va ...
Surely no. Thank you much KIyer! I'm so grateful for the warm words and invaluble suggestions from a real friend like you. All the best!
Reply Report KIyer 2015-11-12 05:36
Judy_Zhu: Surely no. Thank you much KIyer! I'm so grateful for the warm words and invaluble suggestions from a real friend like you. All the best!
Thank you for your note, Judy. I appreciate it.
Reply Report SEARU 2015-11-12 08:20
'Childish' words may be better than that from us adults,at least kids' mind could let us feel fresh and younger!
Reading your blog is also akind of relaxation!
Thanks
Reply Report voice_cd 2015-11-12 09:00
Thanks for sharing your story here. We have highlighted your blog.
Reply Report snowipine 2015-11-12 13:07
naughty kid
Reply Report SEARU 2015-11-13 11:25
snowipine: naughty kid
Rare guest!------

(I mean I seldom see your shadow here!)
Reply Report Funny-boy 2015-11-14 20:10
Very funny and intelligent child.
Reply Report teamkrejados 2015-11-15 09:14
You're right, Judy: kids learn very early how to get what they want. Obviously, Nicole has her Baba wrapped around her little finger! (I'll bet Baba loves it, too!)
Kids are all about exploring and pushing boundaries at Nicole's age. You are very wise to enforce the limits you've set previously.
P.S.: It's always a delight to see you!
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2015-11-16 01:44
SEARU: 'Childish' words may be better than that from us adults,at least kids' mind could let us feel fresh and younger!
Reading your blog is also akind of ...
Thanks! She deals with things in a quite straightforward way, and shows her minds to me without any hidden secrets. I appreciate the state right now, and always feel relaxed with her. While as the time passes, we all know that this state will no longer lasts. But I hope that she grows up to a honest and skillful person.
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2015-11-16 01:45
voice_cd: Thanks for sharing your story here. We have highlighted your blog.
Thanks a lot for your recommendation! I hope I will have more time to contribute to my blogging.
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2015-11-16 01:46
snowipine: naughty kid
I think so:)
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2015-11-16 01:47
Funny-boy: Very funny and intelligent child.
Yes funny! But her speech is still lagging behind a bit. Only simple sentences:( we are still making efforts and progresses:)
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2015-11-16 01:52
teamkrejados: You're right, Judy: kids learn very early how to get what they want. Obviously, Nicole has her Baba wrapped around her little finger! (I'll bet Baba l ...
You are full of wisdom! Yes her father enjoys her little tricks:) so glad to see you again! Hope everything is fine with you, my friend.
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2015-11-16 01:53
Dracarys: work for kids..
Thanks for coming!
Reply Report SEARU 2015-11-16 08:27
Judy_Zhu: Thanks! She deals with things in a quite straightforward way, and shows her minds to me without any hidden secrets. I appreciate the state right now,  ...
What a wonderful comment you have made! -------through which I have no wondering why you won the title of the best blogger in the past!
Reply Report teamkrejados 2015-11-17 09:55
Judy_Zhu: You are full of wisdom! Yes her father enjoys her little tricks:) so glad to see you again! Hope everything is fine with you, my friend.
All is well here, and with my family in France. Thanks so much for your caring! What part of Europe are you in?

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