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HOW NOT TO BE A Dic TO YOUR EUROPEAN FRIENDS.

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As a Chinese undergraduate, I am so honor to have some close foreign friends. And they are very nice and helpful but as a proud Chinese, you should be aware of your manner!(Chinese is a country that has a glorious manner!!) and the following is all my opinions.

1.       Do not look at them in curiosity (that will make them like a monkey! And don’t think they do not understand Chinese, sometimes they can know what you are talking about!)

2.       Do not think every foreigner are American and they also have their own country!

3.       Do not take a photos without permission.(that make them upset!)

4.       Do not think them should know everything like eating a turkey in THANKSGIVING DAY, because some of their culture do not have this tradition.

5.       Take care of your table manner, if you were eating with them. Do not spit things directly to your plates and do not make noise when you are eating.

6.       Do not tell them what they should do, you can just give the advice and let them chose.

7.       Do not think they are so evil when they go to bar or club, it’s just as same as we going for coffee.

8.       Do not be nag or noisy , when they do not understand you, don’t repeat it again and again.

9.       Using A-A type to pay is the best thing but if you want to pay their bill, just find a good reason to persuade them.

10.   If they have some habits and you think they are very bad , do not urge them to abandon it .just tell them the drawbacks of these habits ,but to the end ,it was not your business. Even they are you very close friends.

11.   Be aware of  RESPECT. when they do not show respect to you, you can tell them but if you do not show respect to them, they will be upset.  

12.   Do not show off what a great country you come from. Because they do not know how great your country’s history is and they even do not give a fig to that .

13.   Don’t interrupt when someone is talking and don’t think they are so fancy you if they can have dinner with you.

14.   If they need help that you can offer, just offer what your can offer ,don’t push them to listen you to manage the whole stuff. Learn to leave it alone .and BTW that’s not complete. Just write for fun.

every individual has his or her own world.

(Opinions of the writer in this blog don't represent those of China Daily.)


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Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-4-22 19:32
A good list!  Yes, don't think every foreigner is American..even if some Brits have lived in the USA!     
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-22 19:39
ColinSpeakman: A good list!  Yes, don't think every foreigner is American..even if some Brits have lived in the USA!         
In China still many citizen think foreigners are all American.BUT I do not know before my foreign friends told me. maybe in my hometown Hangzhou the situation will be better. Now I am in Shandong.ANYWAY  thanks for comments .
Reply Report futsanglung 2014-4-22 19:44
you make some valid points but I think you are trying too hard.

People should accept you for what you are, if they can not then they are not true friends
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-22 19:47
futsanglung: you make some valid points but I think you are trying too hard.

People should accept you for what you are, if they can not then they are not true fri ...
YEAH!!! that is the most important thing they have told me before. when we talk about some personnal things ,they told me if someone like you ,they should accept who you are rather than asking you to change. you get the point!!thank you!
Reply Report futsanglung 2014-4-22 19:49
it appears your replies are being rejected by CD
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-23 21:36
futsanglung: it appears your replies are being rejected by CD
It just need time to pass the inspection!
Reply Report futsanglung 2014-4-24 07:10
Seems to be taking a long time, maybe as you are a fairly   new poster
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-24 08:00
futsanglung: Seems to be taking a long time, maybe as you are a fairly    new poster
yeah ,so poor.
Reply Report futsanglung 2014-4-24 09:15
Keep at it, keep your nose clean and verification becomes much easier
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-24 12:54
futsanglung: Keep at it, keep your nose clean and verification becomes much easier
Thanks for your advice
Reply Report futsanglung 2014-4-24 13:49
We hope you are around here for a while
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-24 17:51
futsanglung: We hope you are around here for a while
I will stay here for a long time, because I think the world know China very well. but sad even ourselves don't know China very well. and I major in Chinese language and literature. I think I have duty to let the world know Chinese. I have some very close European friends here.and they even think China has no manners. Who knows 3000 years ago we have the Classic of manner. Chinese sorrow. If Chinese really throw their culture away, they will truly fail.
Reply Report futsanglung 2014-4-24 19:48
I hope you do stay on CD, you will find there are some good posters and some bad, you just have to learn to ignore some of them.

China has some good literature, it is a pity that so much of it has been translated into other languages so badly that it puts people off, Personnally I love the True Story of Ah Q.

China has some manners and some of the problems are down to cultural differences, however the biggest problem is with the new rich people who think they are superior, I prefer the normal working people in China, everyday I talk ( not well as my Chinese is terrible ) with the cleaners and security men in our office building, they are much nicer than the rich people I meet.

It is also a pity that too many Chinese do not take the trouble to learn about their own country and would sooner travel abroad than to see the wonderful places that China has. I worry it is too late for some Chinese cultural things they have gone already
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-24 21:15
futsanglung: I hope you do stay on CD, you will find there are some good posters and some bad, you just have to learn to ignore some of them.

China has some good  ...
Your words make me touched, that is rational, and some rich people lose their mind and do crazy things everyday. I also worry the world is like China become more and more impatient. But what I could do is reading more and knowing more. I always is confused. sometimes not only about Chinese also about the world. Foreigners like American or young Europeans think having fun is the best thing but Chinese just think that we should be serious and lead a peaceful life. I don't know how to distingush that two attitudes and how can we benefit from those different culture.Britsh is a glorious country in spite of someting bad and ridiculous.It is a conservative country and its manner and many great cultural ideas. So I prefer that country.
Reply Report futsanglung 2014-4-25 08:03
The UK also has somme god things and some bad things, like any country.

You should read more, learn more and make your own opinions based on facts, not just the ideas others put in your head.
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-25 08:59
futsanglung: The UK also has somme god things and some bad things, like any country.

You should read more, learn more and make your own opinions based on facts, n ...
That's right. but as for the truth, I can learn from person or book or website. but even we read a lot we just have much more choices but we can hardly have the final truth. Have you read the LAO ZI (classic of morality). many time I am confused, the more and more useless information just confused your mind. And make you lost. but I still stick to reading.I am so glad that you read the< A Q> ,the famous cultural worrier  Lu xun ,but have you know his another book . he also was the most rational and calm individual in that time.I  strongly recommend the (WILD WEED )to you. It's her collection of essays. that shows the LU xun's inside.
Reply Report futsanglung 2014-4-25 10:16
This shows the problems with Chinese education, you say the more you read the more confused you become, this is because you have not been shown how to evaluate information and to draw your own conclusions.

Lu Xun was good at being able to poke fun at the establismnent and the ways of the time.

The trouble is with buying the Chinese books translated into English is that they are often badly done and a lot is lost in the translation
Reply Report teamkrejados 2014-4-25 11:37
Not every foreigner is American... more specifically, not every foreigner speaks English. Well said!
Reply Report seanboyce88 2014-4-25 20:43
I wrote a blog on how to make friends with a foreigner for Chinese, which mirrors this somewhat, however, my post was mainly to approach some of the shyer foreigners who are maybe still a bit culture shocked. I don't think all foreigners are like this at all, and many will be very understanding of the things you said "not to do"

However, my point was not that you should do this with all foreigners, learn both your and their limits and learn off of each other. Us foreigners should accept you for who you are, we should learn to understand your culture. Remember, we are in your country, not the other way around. You seem like a nice guy, going out your way so much, if I was lucky enough to call you friend however, I would make sure I also go out my way to accommodate your customs and habits, I sincerely hope your foreign friends do the same.

These habits are not rude at all, it's just sometimes new arrivals will maybe be scared by it. Please don't think your country rude as I find it is more often than not the case. :) And I love your history, and I love when sitting drunk in a bar, my Chinese friends start debating about who is better than who in 三国:p

and one last thing, only ever show respect if they show you it back, don't let people walk all over you.

Great blog by the way.
Reply Report 286633460 2014-4-25 21:19
seanboyce88: I wrote a blog on how to make friends with a foreigner for Chinese, which mirrors this somewhat, however, my post was mainly to approach some of the s ...
Obviously you are a cool guy and I am so glad to make friends with you. I also think that most of that manner just they exaggerated. about my friends, my close friend sometimes even take care of me .because they like my big sisters. I come from Hangzhou and I don't know very much in Jinan. I am very happy with them. and I major in Chinese languge and literature.so I do not think we country have no manners. Our country have much more manners than any country even before 3000 years ago . we have Classic of manners .but most of Chinese throw it away. that is the really pity. Of course I will tell my friends in ancient time bla bla...and they always laugh at me( sad...they alway make fun of me .but I like their style they are like Child sometimes)  and I have a lot  to tell.I alway think Chinese culture is amazing, and I will write more and more post about Chinese cuture.I hope you can still give me some advice.
the THREE Kimdom is A wondeful masterpiece but it is just one piece of iceberg. and we even talk about the ZHU GE KONG MING is bad and CAO CAO is kind. we can talk about it. we have much more new ideas.
And I can tell you they are very kind to me. they show respect to me .because I told them I want to study literature in UK so they always help me to learn some western manners. BTW they always complain about the amazing Chinese makesing them awakward. So I wrote about it .
Anyway , thank you very much .and It will be my honor to be your friend.Thank you for you ideas!!!

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