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Can we be honest at all times!

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Without stating the obvious, most human beings fanaticize about leading an idealistic life. One aspect of a Utopian existence is being honest at all times regardless of the circumstances. However, life is not that simple. From time to time, we have no other option but to refer to white lies to achieve harmonious coexistence with our fellow human beings. Consequently, I have no apprehension to state that honesty is an elusive concept and an occasional fib would be harmless. I will elaborate on the reasons behind my views through the rest of my article.

 

First of all, to be honest, one must be sharing his life with people who are capable of accepting the truth without reservations. However, in actual life, such an environment does not exist. Adhering to the truth may lead to isolation and loneliness. Needless to say, most people do not wish to hear facts that may inflict pain and agony upon them. To illustrate my point of view, if people ask you about your perception of them, they normally would like you to emphasize their positive attributes and ignore their negative ones unless they had embraced both their qualities and their flaws. During the span of my life, I lost few friends due to sharing my honest views about their lifestyles, their characteristics or their choices of their other halves.

 

In addition to the abovementioned reason, I do believe that we may lie out of politeness and courtesy. Some individuals could conceive telling the truth as being impolite or being hostile. We are conditioned to hold negative views about people to ourselves to avoid hurting the feelings of others. If I despise an individual, I attempt to avoid him or her instead of expressing my true feeling toward him or her.

 

Finally, we can not be honest with our parents, our friends or with our teachers to avoid their harsh punishments. Few people are secure enough to accept the truth.

 

Regardless of my reasons, I attempt to be honest most of the time bearing in mind that my honesty would not cause any pain or suffering to others. From time to time, I may refer to white lies to achieve harmonious coexistence with my fellow human beings. Consequently, I do believe that honesty is an elusive concept and occasionally telling small fibs may be harmless.  

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Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-4-28 08:56
Can we be honest at all times? yes and no! Honestly!  
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-4-28 08:59
Here is an example where honesty might not be the best policy    Dearest Jane, you are a wonderful girlfriend. You are not that pretty and you are not that clever, but at my age I probably cannot do any better so you will do for me!   . You might guess what ex-GF Jane replied.  
Reply Report voice_cd 2014-4-28 10:08
Thanks for sharing your story here, we have highlighted your blog.
Reply Report Gprincessdiary 2014-4-28 10:09
Sometimes,a open-hearted mind is crucial to a happy life.Every day may not be good,but there is good thing to find.It is not necessary to take bad things into your heart.
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Reply Report teamkrejados 2014-4-28 10:11
A college student was in despair because he could not get a girlfriend. He asked his roommate, who is very successful with girls, what his secret is. The roommate told the poor young man that he should first approach a girl with candy or flowers, and then should invite her for a drink. If everything is going well, they should go to dinner and then dancing. While dancing, he should say something nice to her.
The next morning, the roommate found his unfortunate friend on the floor, beaten black and blue. Shocked, he asked what happened. The unsuccessful boy replied: "I did everything you told me: I gave her flowers, we went for coffee, we had a nice dinner..."
"Yeah, and then what?"
"Well, we went dancing, and while holding her close, I said something nice to her, and that is when she beat me!"
"OMG! What did you say to her?"
"I told her: 'for a fat girl, you sure don't sweat much!'"
You see, maybe a white lie every once in a while is a good idea!
Wish you a great day!
Reply Report laoren1234 2014-4-28 11:12
teamkrejados: A college student was in despair because he could not get a girlfriend. He asked his roommate, who is very successful with girls, what his secret is.  ...
Love the punch line.
Reply Report J.E.Overington 2014-4-28 16:34
ColinSpeakman: Can we be honest at all times? yes and no! Honestly!   
Yes, in fact, we can. If we live good lives with integrity, without compromising ourselves, then we can be honest in each of our relations. The question is, which part of the species prefers being with honest people on honest terms? 25 years of experience shows less than 1% wants to be in the company of honesty, politeness, decency and goodness instead of debauchery, compromise and deceit.
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-4-28 19:32
J.E.Overington: Yes, in fact, we can. If we live good lives with integrity, without compromising ourselves, then we can be honest in each of our relations. The questi ...
Wow. Are these statistics really saying that less than one percent wants to be in the company of honesty? Or the other way round?
Reply Report 财神 2014-4-28 20:34
there is one saying in my society: this is not a era of honesty. make foolish others and be smart for self-goodness.
Reply Report J.E.Overington 2014-4-29 05:54
I haven't done a formal statistical sample and maybe I exaggerated the percentage who shows willingness to be with honest people. Being together is different from saying any random words that deny reality, make a joke out of crimes, deny real identity and steal. Being together includes building something real together, uphold identity, and preventing rather than encouraging harm.

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