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Whether I should say good bye or not

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       I knew a man in a group for making friends about two months ago. For the beginning, I didn’t have the feelings. We only chatted casual. Every day I sent the message to him about a topic for working clearance, he replied the message in his spare time. Sometimes he also gave me some advice about the work or life. I felt that he had the amount experience and a broad range of knowledge.

       I felt that he seemed my a tutor for the life.When I felt confused and lost, I knew him. he gave me many good suggestions in the life, and the comfort and encouragement in the work. He is also humorous. When we chatted, I couldn’t always help laughing by his humor.

       I didn’t know when I began to have a good feelings to him, and even I felt I liked him. I liked to see the messages from his reply, and liked to hear the sound from his massages. I didn’t know how to tell him these, I hoped I could hear him to say these for me. I also began to wait for his messages when I sent the message to him. Sometimes I felt upset when I was waiting for his reply. I also hoped he could sent the message to me initiatively when I didn’t sent the messages to him. Though he always replied my messages, I still hoped he could first sent the message to me every day,not to reply only when i send the message for him. I was disappointed for my wishes. I felt I wasn’t happy as the prior little by little, even sometime felt sad.

      I didn’t know his feelings for me. I thought if he didn’t like me, we may become the good friend, I didn’t want him to disappear in my life and to become the strange people again. I tried my best to control my feelings, but I found that it was difficult more and more. I wanted to see him in the reality, no matter we would become the friend or other. So I proposed to meet to thank him for his help for these period. It needed the courage for me to propose this. I thought he understood my inner. He didn’t reject me directly. He said that he needed some time to prepare and we also needed to know more each other. I didn’t know what I should say again. But I had a deep lost in my heart. I could only wait for the time but I didn’t know when it would be. For the day before yesterday, I asked him when we would meet, he told me that he was reducing weight. He wanted to make the weight reach his satisfaction, he would feel better to meet. I didn’t know what should say once again. I didn’t know whether it is only a excuse not to meet, maybe he never want to meet with me. But if not, why he spent so much time to reply my messages and gave me the good suggestions and comfort and encouragement. Maybe he also wanted to make a good impression as he said to reduce weight to meet me.But I don’t know which thoughts it was for him.

       I also don’t know whether I should wait for him again or not . I don’t also know whether I should say good bye with him... I only feel discomposure and tired. I haven’t sent any message to him today, I don’t also receive any message from him as usual. In fact, I still think about him because he caught  a cold recently. I asked him every day except for today.

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Reply Report SEARU 2019-4-17 15:16
I admit this is a nice essay full of childish dreaming as if you were drunk!  But here let me remind you a real story:
One lady from my home-village made a male friend on the Internet who later was  badly hurt by the man!  In the end the poor bank clerk killed herself, leaving son and husband behind!
Reply Report kevinruud 2019-4-17 22:35
Is he a fat man? Why does he need to lose weight so much? Did he not even send you one of his photos after so long a time of talking and interaction? You can go straight to the point, telling him that he may become your husband if he doesn't mind, etc, then let's see what his answer to that.
Reply Report BlondeAmber 2019-4-18 02:37
Why would you think he is fat if he is reluctant to meet you? He could be married and looking for a plausible way to meet you without his family knowing.
You would best find out if he is married or single, as it would be inappropriate for you to look for anything if he is married.
if he is not initiating conversations, it sounds like he is not single.

Would you reject him if he was single, but slightly over-weight?
Reply Report SEARU 2019-4-18 09:16
kevinruud: Is he a fat man? Why does he need to lose weight so much? Did he not even send you one of his photos after so long a time of talking and interaction?  ...
It is a joke to turn a stranger into husband without face-face talking to each other! Risky to play with fire!
Reply Report SEARU 2019-4-18 09:20
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Reply Report GVTCC 2019-4-18 11:23
before he asks you for money, ask him to give you a picture of himself
Reply Report GVTCC 2019-4-18 11:27
BlondeAmber: Why would you think he is fat if he is reluctant to meet you? He could be married and looking for a plausible way to meet you without his family knowi ...
What you know about him is only his fake name used online, so it is a great challenge to find out his marriage status in real life. Or he can give you his commitment to break up with his current spouse, only the problem is that can you trust him? A popular saying online regarding this matter is "fraud of gun" in Chinese, meaning to cheat the girl for free seex.
Reply Report SEARU 2019-4-18 13:40
GVTCC: What you know about him is only his fake name used online, so it is a great challenge to find out his marriage status in real life. Or he can give you ...
I agree with you! It is a pity for the advanced Internet technology  and service through which many kind people have been seriously hurt on feeling or fortune! For this reason I seldom visit ordinary websites except the CD one!
Reply Report SEARU 2019-4-18 16:33
To the author: That is an error to label your this writing as ‘passing’-level! (Today this is the first time I notice the statement! Maybe it was done when I worked with cellphone without controling! ) Sorry for the fact!
Reply Report kevinruud 2019-4-19 22:04
SEARU: It is a joke to turn a stranger into husband without face-face talking to each other! Risky to play with fire!
We may over-estimate the danger, if she doesn't give him anything, it is fine.
Reply Report ephil_cn 2019-4-20 08:59
SEARU: I admit this is a nice essay full of childish dreaming as if you were drunk!  But here let me remind you a real story:
One lady from my home-village  ...
thank you for your remind.
Reply Report ephil_cn 2019-4-20 09:04
kevinruud: Is he a fat man? Why does he need to lose weight so much? Did he not even send you one of his photos after so long a time of talking and interaction?  ...
I don't know, maybe he wants to change better to meet.   , I saw his photograph, I felt he isn't fat. but everybody has a self demand.
Reply Report ephil_cn 2019-4-20 09:06
BlondeAmber: Why would you think he is fat if he is reluctant to meet you? He could be married and looking for a plausible way to meet you without his family knowi ...
thank you for your suggestions. maybe we will not  meet  forever.
Reply Report ephil_cn 2019-4-20 09:06
SEARU: To the author: That is an error to label your this writing as ‘passing’-level! (Today this is the first time I notice the statement! Maybe it was do ...
never mind
Reply Report BlondeAmber 2019-4-20 16:01
ephil_cn: thank you for your suggestions. maybe we will not  meet  forever.
if this man is not willing to meet you, or is evasive about his marital status - move on.
Go out, meet real people, take part in sports/social activities.
don't sit in your room brooding or feeling sorry for yourself.
online friendship is not as emotionally satisfying or as mentally healthy as real-life relationships.
Reply Report GVTCC 2019-4-22 11:32
SEARU: I agree with you! It is a pity for the advanced Internet technology  and service through which many kind people have been seriously hurt on feeling or ...
You are an old driver, too.
Reply Report ephil_cn 2019-5-8 14:45
BlondeAmber: if this man is not willing to meet you, or is evasive about his marital status - move on.
Go out, meet real people, take part in sports/social activit ...
ok, thank you once again!

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  • Whether I should say good bye or not 2019-5-8 14:45

    BlondeAmber: if this man is not willing to meet you, or is evasive about his marital status - move on.
    Go out, meet real people, take part in sports/social activit ...
    ok, thank you once again!

  • Whether I should say good bye or not 2019-4-22 11:32

    SEARU: I agree with you! It is a pity for the advanced Internet technology  and service through which many kind people have been seriously hurt on feeling or ...
    You are an old driver, too.

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