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Honour killing - 面子的问题

Popularity 1Viewed 1163 times 2014-5-30 19:22 |Personal category:Life Story|System category:News

“I killed my daughter as she had insulted our family by marrying a man without our consent,. I have no regret over it,”

That were the words of the father of a 25-year-old pregnant woman who was brutally stoned to death for marrying the man of her choice. Farzana Parveen was attacked on Tuesday outside the Lahore High Court by nearly 20 members of her family, including her father and brothers, with sticks and bricks. 

Farzana was three months pregnant and had gone to the court to testify in defence of her husband Muhammad Iqbal, 45, accused of kidnapping her and forcing her to marry him (http://indianexpress.com/)

Here's the sad statistics for honour killing.
    • 5000 honour killings internationally per year.
    • 1000 honour killings occur in India
    • 1000 honour killings occur in Pakistan
    • 12 honour killings per year in UK (Stats from http://hbv-awareness.com)
The Chinese has a saying about being able to stay firm and stand tall. It is important that each person live a good and fruitful life. Each individual is responsible for their own action and for their own life.

For a father to say it is honourable to kill her daughter because she marry the person he disagree with is tantamount to killing a goat because it has stop producing milk and no longer has any value. The daughter has the same value as a goat. What is the value of daughters or women? 

Blood is suppose to be thicker than water but not in this case. The “face” of the father in front of this relatives is thicker than the blood he shares with his own flesh and blood. Twenty years spent living with the daughter is not worth the value of this "face".  

The relatives that help to kill the daughter, the policemen that stand by and just watch and the public who watch and say nothing says much about the society and its culture. It is not something that is said in the law nor in their religious book. It is something that is just conveniently pass from generation to generation. 

It suit the purpose of controlling women folks within the family so that they do not "stray". Just like the way you use a gate to keep your goats in, this was a "family law" set to justify killing if anyone dares to stray too far from the gate set by the elder. 

Migrating to a western country doesn't change that age-old attitude. Three Afghan girls aged 13, 17 and 19 were killed by their parents in Canada for having Christian boyfriend and wearing short skirts.

Question - Do honour killing apply when their own sons kill and rape? Well, apparently not. So why the difference? 

(Opinions of the writer in this blog don't represent those of China Daily.)




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