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Post time 2012-2-29 14:50:05 |Display all floors
I decided to post this after a discussion on another post.

I've found that many people think that in America, everyone has 'open' marriages. This is far from the truth. There are some who do but they are very, very small in numbers. There is no way that most American women would tolerate their husbands, moving out, living with a girlfriend and stay married to him. In America, the women would divorce him, take as much of his money as she could get and be finished with him. I know you've seen movies that show Americans as very 'open'. They are not. Not like this.

On the other hand, I am shocked as just how many women I've met here in China who are married to men who openly live with girlfriends and stay married to them (they say, "Because of the children or child."). I don't know a lot of people here in China, but, I know of two women who have remained married to their husbands while the husband has lived with his girlfriends for 10 years or more. American women would never tolerate that.

The divorce rate here in China remains much lower than in the U.S., but, in reality, many men get a girlfriend, live with her, don't live with their wife and just stay married. I personally think that its more honest to divorce such a man and go on with your life.

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Post time 2012-2-29 18:25:09 |Display all floors
. Today wives can afford to leave a bad husband in Europe and america. Back in the days and in present China this might not be the case to the same degree perhaps.

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Post time 2012-3-1 06:44:46 |Display all floors
the only open marriage i have ever seen was a couple that was in their sixties and the  man went and got  a girlfriend that was in her thirties the woman was too catholic to get a divorce but as far as i know he never got allowed back in her bed after she found out.
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Post time 2012-3-1 09:03:56 |Display all floors
scrotymcbugerba Post time: 2012-2-29 14:44
the only open marriage i have ever seen was a couple that was in their sixties and the  man went and ...

After having a girl in her thirties do you really think he would want to be allowed back in his wife's bed?

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Post time 2012-3-1 09:14:48 |Display all floors
only after the younger one spent a good portion of his money and when the kids came home for the holidays it was sad he had a heart condition and could not stop taking viagra
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Post time 2012-3-16 13:30:28 |Display all floors
Chinese girls are of more sacrifice spirit,they are responsible ,for children's happiness they can even tolerate a variety of marriage torture. Brilliance of maternal makes them great~

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Post time 2012-3-16 16:14:19 |Display all floors

On the other hand, I am shocked as just how many women I've met here in China  ( How many women you've met here in China ? )

who are married to men who openly live with girlfriends and stay married to them (they say, "Because of the children or child.").

I don't know a lot of people here in China, but, I know of two women ( then, you only know two women

who have remained married to their husbands while the husband has lived with his girlfriends for 10 years or more. American women would never tolerate that.


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