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What Destroyed Your Dream Job?

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Every one of us had a dream job when he was a toddler. Kids are honest and straightforward; they always say the truth and expose how they feel. I once was asking a group of children aged between eight and twelve years old.  Well, some boys said that their dream job is to a doctor, others wanted to be teachers and police officers, while girls wanted to be nurses, actresses and TV anchors. There was only one boy who wanted to be a subway driver because the subway looks cool and long. We all were that child and had the same pure an innocent dream for the future before it was influenced by several factors and eventually destroyed. Things that force people to change their carrier course such as interests, values and motivations, personality, skills and qualifications.

Yesterday, I asked a group of Chinese friends the same question about their childhood's dream and I found out that none of them could achieve that dream due to different reasons.  A guy who is working as a software engineer now wanted to be police officer when he was a child; he told me that what destroyed his dream is his weak eyesight since police officers are required to have a strong vision which I first time heard that in order to serve as police officer you need a perfect vision.  Many friends attributed their failure of accomplishing their dream to the low mark in the GaoKao, China's College Entry Test. However, some of them said that they had to give up on their dreams for social reasons and because of financial hardships!    

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Reply Report seneca 2017-6-9 09:20
I think Chinese children don't in general develop strong ideas about their dream jobs because they are under too much parental influence in this matter.
Reply Report arabchinalover 2017-6-9 09:21
seneca: I think Chinese children don't in general develop strong ideas about their dream jobs because they are under too much parental influence in this matte ...
That's right , family connection is very strong and it gets involved in everything of children's lives !
Reply Report seneca 2017-6-9 09:27
When I turned 14, I knew I wanted to become a physiotherapist or a masseur. I had the hoby of running and all kinds of sports, so it stood to reasonthat I should do a ob in which I could use my muscle mass.

But it was not to be. For reasons to complicated to tell here, various adult advisors and my motherganged up against me and decided I should seek a more glamorous occupation. It was a big drama - my dream was evaporating and adults decided I must do something worthwhile and great from THEIR point of view.

Eventually, I became in turn an agronomist, then a language teacher and translator through relevant studies, but I have worked in other capacities as well. Teaching children in Hong Kong and in Mainland China has been my most fulfilling career.
Reply Report seneca 2017-6-9 09:33
arabchinalover: That's right , family connection is very strong and it gets involved in everything of children's lives !
I do have some interesting impressions on this, though. In general, teachers find Chinese girl pupils more dedicated to studying than boy pupils. Boys get spoilt rotten by their parents and sometimes even by teachers. Girls have to earn their degrees the hard way, so they generally turn out more pliable more obedient, harder-working.

But once in a while you meet a boy who does not follow his peers' examples. I have met several boys who were deep thinkers who questioned the status quo of things with a sharp mind.

A boy aged 17 for example decided he wanted to finish high school in a Western country because, he said, "high schools here produce idiots". What he meant was that his high school only produced meek robotic memorisers. He actually made it into a British high school!
Reply Report Kevinfly 2017-6-9 09:48
Doctor, teacher and police officer are the most common dream job of Chinese kids, but I do not believe that is what they want to do when they grow up. That is because they are told doctor, teacher and police officer is honorable.
Reply Report arabchinalover 2017-6-9 10:43
Kevinfly: Doctor, teacher and police officer are the most common dream job of Chinese kids, but I do not believe that is what they want to do when they grow up. ...
That's right , kids are more likely to be taught by their parents about social status.....
Reply Report arabchinalover 2017-6-9 10:45
seneca: I do have some interesting impressions on this, though. In general, teachers find Chinese girl pupils more dedicated to studying than boy pupils. Boys ...
From your career ladder I can see that you have experiences in different fields . For the comparison between boys and girls , yes , based on my own experience I found that girls make better students than boys and they even work harder .
Reply Report parcher 2017-6-9 11:02
I wanted to be a golf professional on tour but could not get my handicap down to scratch. I stayed in the golf industry, have worked in a few countries now as a result, but I don't play golf anymore
Reply Report arabchinalover 2017-6-9 11:07
parcher: I wanted to be a golf professional on tour but could not get my handicap down to scratch. I stayed in the golf industry, have worked in a few countrie ...
You are the lucky one , at least you didn't get arrested while driving under the influence of alcohol lol
Reply Report zoezoelong 2017-6-9 12:02
I wanted to be a dancer when I was a grade 2 student. But I immigrated to a contryside for studing after 1 year. There was not professional dance teacher. They just focused on studying, scoles. I work as a purchaser in a foreign trade company. Sometimes I am thinking of the dream, is it your dream or your family's dream?
Reply Report arabchinalover 2017-6-9 13:37
zoezoelong: I wanted to be a dancer when I was a grade 2 student. But I immigrated to a contryside for studing after 1 year. There was not professional dance teac ...
I wanted to be a novelist , when I was a child my father was poor and had no money to buy books to extend my knowledge and read more books to improve my writing skills ... Alas , it's too late but I hope that I can achieve my dream one day !
Reply Report HailChina! 2017-6-13 20:42
arabchinalover: I wanted to be a novelist , when I was a child my father was poor and had no money to buy books to extend my knowledge and read more books to improve  ...
I do not even understand the humour here. Why is this funny? ?
Reply Report HailChina! 2017-6-13 21:11
Why would a four year old kid think about a dream job? That is very stupid. Four year old kids dont care about getting a job. If you ask a leading question then you may get an answer but four year olds do not have dream jobs.

And some may not be intelligent enough to become a doctor but most could if they really wanted to unless they have some kind of disorder or something. And who the heck couldnt become a police or nurse if that was their little dream? And isnt a software engineer a better job than police? What is the point of this idiotic unfunny blog? It is very stupid and unfunny.

I absolutely did not have a so-called 'dream job' in mind when I was a toddler. I did not want a job while I was a child and I refused to do most chores. Sometimes I would get some wood for the fire but that was about it - and I have never wanted to be a lumberjack. I have never wanted a job the entire time I have been alive. Why would anyone actually want a job? I seriously do not get it.

Do you know why people want jobs? I just figured it out. It is so they will have more going for them than what god gave them. Thats basically what is going on. Like jerks that want to be in a band to help them get girls - all jobs are pretty much like that on whatever scale. Some person couldnt get the girl they want at school when they were a kid so they become a doctor or a lawyer so they can afford a sugarbaby. I never thought like that because I feel like god gave me a lot. I am not carrying around some complex from when I was a kid. I was basically pretty happy as a kid. I was a very happy teenager. I have never felt as though I needed money or a good job to get with a hot chick ( Until I got old I guess, and still - I am pretty decent looking for my age so it is society not me. Im all good. See next sentence - ) I have always felt that it was society and not me that was behind any problem I may have encountered. I still feel that way. But yeah, why else would someone want a job?

Many people dont ever need to think about what job they will have to do when they grow old because they are from wealthy families and I would imagine that to this people the idea of a so-called 'dream job' is as silly to them as wanting to win a lottery. Wanting a job is for slaves.

I just thought of a job that I have wanted. I have wanted to be the owner and GM of the Sydney Kings basketball team. That is probably my 'dream job' but I wouldnt want it to take up too much time and it probably would you know. Honestly though - if I could afford the Sydney Kings I wouldnt buy them - I would just hang out with sugarbabies and have a happy day. Emperor. Thats it. My dream job is Emperor. I would be like Commodus. Commodus was the smartest Roman Emperor. Mostly he just hung out in a building full of hundreds of hot chicks and he had sex with them. He also had time to take seven to eight baths per day. I wouldnt bother going to the games though ( especially if I had hundreds of hot chicks to have sex with in some big building. ). That kind of nonsense would be beneath me. So yeah, I dont really want to own the Sydney Kings and be their GM unless I really have to. I dont want a job. I have never wanted a job. Nothing stopped my 'dream'. I never had one. I want to be the Emperor now though. Of the entire world. That is the only job I am interested in. And I have thought a bit about how to make it happen actually. One world government/new world order/new one world digital currency/chips in everyones brains etc. I havent given up on becoming Emperor at all. I feel like Im just getting started. People shouldnt give up on their dreams. If you want to be a writer then keep trying. Dont give up. The excuses you mentioned are not very good excuses. You can do it.
Reply Report arabchinalover 2017-6-14 12:28
HailChina!: Why would a four year old kid think about a dream job? That is very stupid. Four year old kids dont care about getting a job. If you ask a leading que ...
It's true that employement is slavery but people at the end look for survival! What are you doing now ? Ruling your own empire? Managing your international company ? People at the end dream of doing something that the feel comfortable with ! I will keep trying to achieve my dreams and I thank you for your supportive words . I hope that one day I become a famous writer that dedicates his words to praise your empirical Achievements .
Reply Report HailChina! 2017-6-14 18:33
arabchinalover: It's true that employement is slavery but people at the end look for survival! What are you doing now ? Ruling your own empire? Managing your internat ...
At the end? Something people feel comfortable with? That is a little different to the nonsense you wrote in your stupid unfunny blog isn't it you moron. And why do you think I mention Commodus? Achievement? Achievement is for slaves. Most Roman Emperors were slaves. So worried about achievement when they could have been hanging out in a with hundreds of hot chicks in some big sex building like a smart Ottoman. Pretty much every Roman Emperor wasted it. They cared about what people think. Even Nero. Nero enjoyed himself but all that entertaining is evidence of a ego deficiency.

Right now I am working as a cleaner at a highschool. I didn't say anything about being the Emperor of the world right now did I? Or anything about running an international corporation. I don't like capitalist society remember. And I am not working for survival - I have spent more than five years being unemployed before starting this cleaning job recently. In Australia you can be unemployed forever. I don't need a lot of money so it was more than enough to survive on. The things you say are very stupid. One minute toddlers all have dream jobs and the next people are trying to survive at the end. You are a moron. I changed my mind about your dream of being a writer. You seem too stupid to be a writer. Maybe you could write a children's book or something. Why do you want to be a writer anyway? Do you want people to think you are clever because you are not very attractive? Why? Do you want to be famous or something. Are you some kind of entertainer are you. Most writers are not very famous you know. Not many people read books these days and there are so many great writers that have already been so why would anyone bother reading your junk? Who is a famous modern writer? And are they really famous? Only if they write trash for the masses. I'm sure you would write trash but could you write for the masses? Why do you want to write? You wrote a blog. It was very crap.

If you got an extreme make over I think you would still be a pretty ugly guy. That is why you want to be a writer isn't it. That is why you are such an unfunny wretch isn't it. You are ugly and you know. An ugly unfunny wretch.

Edit - And hey. What have you achieved anyway? You passed a uni course did you? Wow.. Your father would be so proud. You are better than your father aren't you? Can you afford an extreme make over? You should look into it. It couldn't hurt. I would get one for sure if I could afford one. Im already pretty decent looking so I would probably be a solid ten after an extreme make over. You should get one.

Edit - Oh yeah. With Nero the entertaining was primarily for him. Sure he was keeping the masses on side but you can tell that he enjoyed entertaining. But with Commodus the entertaining was for the masses not for him. He was just being very funny with all that gladiator stuff. But yeah, the smartest Emperors were Nero, Caligula and Commodus. None of them cared about 'achievement'. Commodus was the smartest.
Reply Report HailChina! 2017-6-14 20:13
You are better than your father aren't you.
Reply Report arabchinalover 2017-6-14 20:27
HailChina!: You are better than your father aren't you.
I can say that I received better education than him and I speak three languages while he speaks only one but that not necessarily makes me a better person than him !
Reply Report HailChina! 2017-6-14 20:35
arabchinalover: I can say that I received better education than him and I speak three languages while he speaks only one but that not necessarily makes me a better pe ...
He sounds like a better perst than you are. I think I would like him more than I like you.

And three languages hey. That's quite an achievement. (:
Reply Report arabchinalover 2017-6-14 20:44
HailChina!: He sounds like a better perst than you are. I think I would like him more than I like you.

And three languages hey. That's quite an achievement. (:
He definitely is a better person than I am ! Imagine a labor worker who strived to rise 10 children !! He is my hero , he didn't receive any education but he is a wiseman ....
Reply Report HailChina! 2017-6-15 08:41
arabchinalover: He definitely is a better person than I am ! Imagine a labor worker who strived to rise 10 children !! He is my hero , he didn't receive any education ...
Hmm. I thought you said that he .... went away to find work and .... umm, there was a change in government or something. I cent remember exactly but I thought you were saying how much cleverer you are for getting an education. I must be thinking of someone else.

When I was a kid my parents moved from Sydney to the country and my dad got a job working at a mine near the town we moved to. After a few years the mine closed and there wasn't a lot of work around in the country for him so he had to move back to Sydney for a while to find work. He was only away for about a year or something ( he came back to visit and we went to visit him ) but I did miss him. For my birthday while he was away he sent me a video if the movie Empire Strikes Back that he taped from TV because back then we only had two TV stations in the NSW country area my parents moved to and in Sydney they had four and Empire Strikes Back wasn't on the two channels we had. He also sent me a letter with the tape. It was really nice. Another time he came back for my little sisters birthday and he had lots of presents for her and I felt kind if sad because I hadn't seen him for a bit and he had all this stuff for my sister. He noticed I was sad and showed me that he got some new grips for my BMX. He is a very good Dad.

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