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The woman in the neighborhood

Popularity 8Viewed 2537 times 2016-10-28 10:08 |Personal category:society|System category:Life


People say that she is out of her mind because her personality changed greatly. She becomes so fractious and yells at anyone she doesn’t like. She was easily irritated when she caught sight of her husband. she says she hates him with all her heart. It is he who pushed her to be mad. She was once a gentle and easy-going housewife who took charge of all the housework and does some little part-time jobs to support the family. She is from rural area without much education. She reminds me of an elastic rubber band. She never complain about any hardship life has presented her. However, she erupted like a volcano without warning. The neighborhood was shocked and felt sympathetic for her. She deserved to be loved but her husband ruined it all.

 

Her husband has to face the pressure from the neighborhood and apologies to her. But she was too irritated to forgive him. She shouted at him threw things at him and didn’t accept any kindness he had shown. she was indeed out of her mind but she was stuck in the world that he betrayed her by having an affair with another woman and he had been making so many fraudulent promises which she finally tore them up. The price she paid for his obscene behavior was too much. Now she cries out the hatred and anger in her mental disorder way. She just wanted to speak out and called for equality and respect. After she got mad, she kept saying all about the things which upset her in her daily life. what she said was powerful enough to make all her families feel shame. She went through all the hardship without any complains and her families took it for granted and treated like dirt, especially her husband. he beat her when he thought she was in the way and scolded her whenever he was in a bad mood. Finally, the seemingly flexible rubber band broke.

This is the first case that I saw with my own eyes. Life pressure can really drive people mad. How to deal with the pressure piling up in your mind in time is very important otherwise you are carrying a time bomb with you.

I felt sorry for the woman and again I realize the importance of a woman’s independence. Being a woman, we should be strong and have self-esteem. Equality is paramount in a good relationship.

While I am finishing this article, I hear a neighbor saying that she is gradually calm down today under the care of her children who come back home from work in another city. She needs someone to talk to and to love her. I am happy about that and bless her to recover soon. Best wishes to her.

Good people deserve to be loved. And I still believe that God will never give the test that we can not pass.


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Reply Report SEARU 2016-10-28 14:35
Your blog looks like mirror that reflects some phenomenon in the real society. I remembered that in the senior middle school I wrote a composition in which I told a sad story:
My neighbor Mr.Tom was cheated by his wife‘s uncle who had sold a horse to him but unfortunately the big animal died three days later that was a great loss for his family!  Tom got mad! He cried and shouted along the street with his wife looking after him! ------------I directly described the scene but our language teacher told it was bad since it was lack of art!

Months latter, Tom came back home from the hospital with the ears shrunken with scar from the treatment! ---------Now he has fully recovered from the disaster and lives happy life with children and grandson!
Reply Report voice_cd 2016-10-28 20:39
Very impressive story and a pathetic woman, hope she could find the pillar of her heart soon and stand up on her own feet again.
Reply Report ysyaileen 2016-10-28 23:06
SEARU: Your blog looks like mirror that reflects some phenomenon in the real society. I remembered that in the senior middle school I wrote a composition in  ...
the story you mention is also impressive, i am happy to hear that the man ha recovered.
Reply Report ysyaileen 2016-10-28 23:08
voice_cd: Very impressive story and a pathetic woman, hope she could find the pillar of her heart soon and stand up on her own feet again.
she is getting better day by day. i hope that she will fully recover and will not be sent to the hospital.
Reply Report seneca 2016-10-29 08:47
I feel you dwelt a t ad too long on the woman's anger and the likely cause; I wish you had told us more what exactly the man had done wrong (apart from having an affair and "beating her"). If she is so temperamental and hates her husband, why does she keep the marriage intact? Something does not add up here.

The word "family" means a collective: she has ONE family including her husband and herself (and apparently no child yet). Her huisband is not "a family".
Reply Report ysyaileen 2016-10-29 10:26
seneca: I feel you dwelt a t ad too long on the woman's anger and the likely cause; I wish you had told us more what exactly the man had done wrong (apart fro ...
she is a woman who come from the rural area with little education besides the place she lives now is just a small town not the big city.i mean the environment and the situation of herself define her to endure what her husband has done to her. she is not a morden woman with the opening idea that she can divorce her husband and gain her self-esteem or to get any compensation from her husband.
in some rural areas the couple will not easily divorce due to many traditonal reasons, such as the reputation of the family...

the word" famiies " i mentioned in the article means her family members including her relatives, the relavtives of both sides, her sister, her brother..or even her husband's sister...
you know it is difficult to address a relative in english, because we have many different way of address a relative while in english we can simply say" uncle" to represent 叔叔,舅舅。。。
Reply Report seneca 2016-10-29 12:54
ysyaileen: she is a woman who come from the rural area with little education besides the place she lives now is just a small town not the big city.i mean the env ...
Yes, I understand. But the picture is not complete. What is the man's education? Why did they marry in the first place? Did they get introduced to each other by their parents?
I have been acquainted with some Chinese couples with dissimilar social statuses. The classical case is a highly educated or successful husband with an uneducated wife; if this scenario obtains then the man usually married her to meet society's norms and to produce a child. Many such husbands stop having cordial rapport with their wives once they have a child. This does not mean the men are violent towards them; there just is a cooling off of the relationship. In some cases, the woman is the one that initiates unfrienbdly acts.
At the end of it, society has to assume responsibility for producing such dysfunctional couples. You need to broaden your horizon to see other reasons for getting hitched to someone.
Reply Report Dracarys 2016-10-29 21:31
maybe some bad things happened that you guys doesn't know ..
Reply Report ysyaileen 2016-10-30 22:57
seneca: Yes, I understand. But the picture is not complete. What is the man's education? Why did they marry in the first place? Did they get introduced to eac ...
the marrage of the  man and the woman is  not arranged by parents. they did loved each other before the simple fact is that the husband betrayed the wife just because he met another woman and had an affair with her .the wife had done nothing wrong,'
Reply Report seneca 2016-10-31 09:32
Dracarys: maybe some bad things happened that you guys doesn't know ..
I wholly agree wqith you. I have some misgivings about this woman. Victim of violence or not, she hardly is innocent.

This is what I once witnessed:
A 28-year-old woman agreed to become a married man's mistress. The man was generous to her. He financed a shop that she ran on her own with staff she could afford to pay. One morning I saw her with black and blue bruises. When I said how horrified I was she laughed.
She was actually PROUD ov having been beaten by her man friend. She said it showed "he cares for me. He is jealous".

She did not care how their affair could affect the man's wife and her rights...
Reply Report GhostBuster 2017-2-14 14:41
Most Chinese women do not know what love actually is until after they have had experienced that from other men. This is a serious problem in most places. Perhaps, women could organize some social exchanges to allow them to understand their real needs.

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  • The woman in the neighborhood 2017-2-14 14:41

    Most Chinese women do not know what love actually is until after they have had experienced that from other men. This is a serious problem in most places. Perhaps, women could organize some social exchanges to allow them to understand their real needs.

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