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Love can prevent a child's suicide

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Parents need to spend time every day talking to their child. If you set goals for your child that they can not meet in school you may cause problems with depression when they fail to meet your standards.

With the college entrance exam in China many students fail to reach that magic score to get into a top university every year. Most students in China spend many years, many hours preparing for this exam. It is not possible for every student to reach the score their parents want them to reach. There are many reasons for not getting a high score. Some kids just get so scared and forget things, others are just not good test takers, even when they have studied hard, others may not be good students from the get go etc.

Parents should get to know the abilities of their child from birth forward. This takes parents that actually spend at least 30 minutes a day talking, playing with them, watch them as they study, check on them while they are doing home work, ask questions, observe their behavior each day and get to know what your child is thinking. 

Before the beginning of each school year parents should sit down with their child and set realistic goals with them for each subject they will have this new year of school. You should know what classes they excell at and the ones that they may not like or they have problems with. Set goals high enough that they must work hard. But not higher then they can reach.

When grades are given during the year, look at the report when received with you child. Discuss how they are doing and  praise them often for work well done. When they fail to reach the grade you expected , do not yell at them, hit them, call them stupid or be negative in anyway. Instead of negative set up a plan for improving and be helpful. Make school important and enjoyable for them.

Not every child with be in the top 10% of their class. If you make your child feel they have failed your standards when they are not able to reach them. Many kids will feel useless, unwanted, think they are failures, become depressed and feel they have no reason to live. Some kids will take their own life after failing to reach a high score on the college entrance exam again this year.

Make sure the know the signs of depression, observe any change in your child after getting the results. Once you see any change in behavior, if any change is observed you need to talk with them, watch them closely and do get professional  help for them. 

If not you may end up with a child who ends their own life.

The more you love your child, talk to them, learn how they think, praise them, are positive with them,  tell them you love them at least once a day. More love, proper discipline, and listening to your child will keep you, the parent from losing your child.

Parents in China teach many good things to their children. Please make sure you also get to know your child's thoughts. Then you child will be able to go on with life. Even when they fail to reach a high score on the college entrance exam. Just sit down with them praise them for trying their best and set new goals.



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Reply Report HailChina! 2018-6-9 07:08
So we should blame the parents when a teenager commits suicide? Yes I agree!
Reply Report MichaelM 2018-6-9 08:00
Excellent blog. Great advice. Every parent should read this. I'm going to forward to my WeChat followers. They need this. Thank you.
Reply Report Swifty55 2018-6-9 08:14
Welcome to all and hope some day people wake up
Reply Report Swifty55 2018-6-9 15:46
MichaelM: Excellent blog. Great advice. Every parent should read this. I'm going to forward to my WeChat followers. They need this. Thank you.
Thanks kindly sir. Wish was a way to reach more parents then this site
Reply Report MichaelM 2018-6-10 07:01
Swifty55: Thanks kindly sir. Wish was a way to reach more parents then this site
I posted to several groups that I'm in as well as on my WeChat Moments. Hopes it helps at least a little. You're welcome.
Reply Report SEARU 2018-6-10 18:40
The useful help for kid is that parent should discuss lessons with him or her and do many tests or much practice about theory!
Care more about children‘s interest in books rather than the scores they have got!
Reply Report Swifty55 2018-6-12 02:32
HailChina!: So we should blame the parents when a teenager commits suicide? Yes I agree!
Yes you are correct
Reply Report Swifty55 2018-6-12 02:33
SEARU: The useful help for kid is that parent should discuss lessons with him or her and do many tests or much practice about theory!
Care more about childre ...
you got it thanks
Reply Report HailChina! 2018-6-12 06:58
Swifty55: Yes you are correct
Yes so when some kid kills themselves and the parents blame bullying they should instead look themselves in the mirror and ask themselves if their child would have killed itself if they had better parenting skills and a better relationship with their child. Like the parents of this little Dolly in Australia that are now a media driven anti-bullying crusade since their little Dolly killed herself. Don't these fools even realize that they are being used as useful idiots by the powers that be to push an agenda? These parents truly make me sick. Deep down I think that they do know that they are the ones to blame you know.

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