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The dilemma of gay and lesbian’s parenting

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Given the main content of this essay has been blocked for some copyright issue,i just translate the abstract of this essay into english.


The debate between opponents and supporters of lesbian and gay parents is often centered around the meaning of the research literature that has studied lesbian and gay families. 

对于同性恋父母的支持者和反对者,他们的辩论更多是围绕着同性恋家庭的相关研究的意义上展开。


Opponents argue that the research shows that the preferences and behavior of children of lesbians and gay men are different in significant ways from those of children of heterosexuals. 

反对者认为那些研究证明了由同性恋抚养大的孩子,在行为和喜好上,与由异性恋抚养大的孩子有着明显差别。


Supporters usually deny the existence of difference.

支持者则否认这种差别的存在。


Rather than continue back and forth with this debate, I assume in this paper that the opponents of parenting by lesbians and gay men are correct on one issue: that there are differences in the gender preferences and behavior of the children of lesbians and gay men. 

与其让这些辩论不停地来来去去,我在这篇论文中将会假设反对者的观点是正确的。由同性恋者抚养长大的孩子,在性别取向和行为上确实存在一定的不同。


The purpose of this assumption is to proceed to explore the implications of difference for the equality claims of current and prospective lesbian and gay parents, including adoptive parents.

假设的目的是为了更好地探索这些差异会对孩子造成的影响,从而决定给予现任的和潜在的同性恋父母,包括收养孩子的同性恋父母的平等养育权利。


I argue that not all differences in the preferences and behavior of children should be equated with harm, especially when those differences are associated with nonconformity with traditional gender roles and expectations. 

我认为不是所有孩子在喜好和行为上存在不同都被认为是有害的,特别是这些不同点与传统的性别角色和期待上的差异性有关。


I also argue that our social norms relating to parental autonomy counsel against state interference in internal family matters in the absence of clear harm. 

我认为在家庭内部事务中,我们的社会基准是跟父母的自主决策权有关的,而非国家干预,这对造成真正伤害的忽视的探讨具有重要影响。


The value of parental autonomy fosters a kind of pluralism and diversity in the preferences and behavior of children that should be encouraged and celebrated rather than feared. 

父母拥有自主的权力去养育在喜好和行为上存在多样化的孩子,这样的价值是应该被估计和赞赏的,而非感到可怕。


Finally, I argue that if a state were to try to prohibit lesbians and gay men from adopting on the basis of the differences in gender preferences and behaviors of their children, such a justification would fail to pass constitutional muster under the equal protection clause.

最后,我指出,如果一个国家去尝试紧致同性恋去收养孩子,认为这些孩子会存在性取向和行为上的异常,这样的理由是不能通过在人人平等的保护条例下的宪法规定的。

(Opinions of the writer in this blog don't represent those of China Daily.)


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