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If you wanted to feel happy

Viewed 1167 times 2017-4-1 17:12 |System category:Life| advantage, silence, against, wanted, others

If you wanted to feel happy, maybe it was true to swallow down others' criticism and sarcasm. Leave their words alone and walk your life forward.

Sometimes I am in a bad mood to talk and keep silence after my communication with my roommates irritates me and make me annoyed. They tend to use sarcastic words against me about my words, just like in a debate. Many times they feel superior to take advantage of my thinkings I am so unhappy after that. Should I regard those communications as daily life ones? Or should I consider those as debates against my opponents? As for me, they are feeling like debates almost every single time we communicate. Yes, I fail to convince my roommates of my thinkings so often. But in fact I don't have to. Yet, I feel so gloomy so sad every time after the likes of those communications.

So here I mediate myself and try to find the resolution which can bring this situation to an end.

Don't feel angry so hard. Anger only hurts you. Take communications with my roommates at ease. Have a shot.

Keep in mind that if they go on treating me like a debater rather than a friend, leave them alone as who they are. Immerse yourself  into your work, your study. 

I have fainth in a saying which goes like that  "Treat people the way you want to be treated". And the opposite version that "treat others the way they treat you " perhaps is correct, too.

My dad always  tells me that "Don't have a whim to hurt others but Being wary of others is necessary".

Now I think it is right.

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