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How China Saved My Life

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In 2005, I retired with enough money and income to live a very good life. I usually say that I only semi-retired because I was doing different things. I started writing. I finished my first book in 2006 and published it on my birthday that year. I continued to write and give speeches for quite sometimes. I was featured as a speaker at the World Wellness Convention that year. I spoke at other events with famous and highly respected authors and speakers.

One thing that was happening at home was, I didn't have a good marriage. It became a situation where I stayed because I knew that my two daughters needed their father. I wasn't going to be someone who abandoned my children. I stayed to give them the positive and loving support that I believe a father should give to his children. I did my best.

However, when I wasn't speaking at an event or traveling, I was at my home in the back bedroom. I encountered something that I'd never believed could happen to me. I got depressed. Depressed about my marriage and my life. It was ironic. I was helping others come out of depression as I went deeper into depression.

I'd spent many years being a positive influence and encourager to thousands of people. I had my own weekly television show that was seen by tens of thousands of people. I had a daily radio program of my own. I had influence. But now, the encourager needed encouragement and I had my mother and a few other friends to give it to me. I felt alone much of the time because everyone depended on me to be positive, happy and to give them the inspiration that they needed.

My marriage was doomed. I knew that. Things happened that were beyond my control. She fell in love with another man. I wasn't surprised. It wasn't so hard to accept. In many ways, I knew that it would likely happen.

I moved out of my home that I'd work so hard to build. A very nice and big home. I moved into the back bedroom of my mother's home. I stayed there for nearly a year deciding what I'd do with the rest of my life. I had daily thoughts about not going on living.

Then, I got a contact from a Chinese man in California. He was from Zhengzhou, Henan, China. A place I knew nothing about. He had seen my name on a magazine back cover for several years. I had served as a national spokesperson for the number one language software program in the USA. My name was on the back cover of that magazine (and many others) for about 8 years. They used my influence to sell their program.

He talked to me about coming to China and working with others to develop a new English language teaching and training curriculum. He felt I had the expertise to do that. At first, I tried to find someone else for him. I didn't know if I wanted to come here or not. I never found the right person, so, on August 25, 2011, I landed in Zhengzhou. I had planned to stay here for a year and then go home. Today, I've been here more than 4.5 years and I have no plans of leaving except to go back and visit the USA.

After I got here, I quickly realized the need for good English teaching and education. Zhengzhou was not some popular city like Shanghai, Guangzhou or Beijing. It wasn't a coastal city that is so popular with many. In fact, the ratio of foreign teachers to students here was about 10% of what it was in these other more famous cities. I knew there was a need here and that I could do something to make a difference in lives of children.

I've been here all of this time and many amazing things have happened. It hasn't always been easy. I was cheated out of nearly a year's worth of rent by a thief who stole from many others as well. I got no help to get justice or get my money back. However, I've met with more people who are kind, generous, happy and who truly have the best hearts of anyone I've ever known in my life.

I found a love for helping people here in China. It saved my life. My love and passion now is being able to help hundreds of people every day through WeChat (weixin). I accidentally created a group there just 48 days ago. We now have over 900 members who I teach an English lesson to every day. I also have my classes at No. 19 Middle School's International High School Department. Our third year high school students are being accepted to top 100 schools in the USA. On Sunday mornings when I'm not teaching or giving a presentation somewhere, I'm at the Binhe Park English Corner with Mr. Luo, the leader there, and all of my wonderful friends helping them with their English. I write here on China Daily and have met others who treat me better than I've ever been treated. They are my friends. True friends.

I love China. I love to support China and write about the many positive aspects of this great country. For China truly did, 'save my life.'

(Opinions of the writer in this blog don't represent those of China Daily.)


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Reply Report voice_cd 2016-4-28 09:10
Thank you very much!!! we have highlighted your blog.
Reply Report Jarek 2016-4-29 01:28
So glad for you. I only lived one year in China but loved it very much. I still haven't recovered from it, and I mean this in a positive way.
Reply Report teamkrejados 2016-4-29 12:31
It is difficult to admit to depression, and even harder to deal with it. Kudos to you! Keep on keepin' on.
Reply Report tmchaw 2016-4-29 15:13
looks like you found back yourself in China. Wish you a happy and enjoyable life.
Reply Report mixamixa 2016-5-3 14:49
I got two words for you and everyone who is planning to get married: Prenuptial agreement.

Good luck and keep up the good work.
Reply Report EllaYu 2016-5-6 15:43
Wish good luck always in China
Reply Report zhanggli2010 2016-5-12 12:09 (Pending for approval)
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Reply Report MichaelM 2016-5-12 14:59
zhanggli2010: Dear Micheal,

These days, I am reading your blog articles one by one, from which I feel the beating rhythem of your heart, a heart full of love and c ...
You are so kind! Thank you for your thoughtful words.
Reply Report zhanggli2010 2016-5-13 08:43
The students Mr. Michael teaches learn a lot from him, not only the lessons in English, but many others in life, in serving others and in spiritual improvement; we, the blog readers also deprive a lot from his experiences and thoughts.

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Michael is the author of the transformational book, Powerful Attitudes. He is a professional educator, an educational consultant, an author. He lives in Zhengzhou, Henan Province. He enjoys playing guitar and writing poetry. He loves China.

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